Entailing: 10 Reasons Women Aren't Complicated At All

Men complain daily how it's virutally impossible to understand women.

In all honesty, we're not difficult to understand at all.

Lets start with the first topic: "The Douche vs. The Nice Guy"

Guys assume that girls always go for the "douche bag" and not the "nice guy".

Boys, don't be hypocritical, like you're not attracted to the sluts?

Listen, a lot of guys are sweet and treat us well at the beginning.. Then, after time goes by, the guy turns into a douche bag.

Falling out of love is hard, even when you're not being treated right. We stick around and put up with the "douche bag" because we know deep down, the "nice guy" still exists.

At the end of the day, we want a nice guy, we're just willing to give the douche bags the benefit of the doubt.

Topic number two, "Playing Hard to Get"

Every girl is terrified of getting her heart broken, plain and simple. It's better not to rush.

Playing hard to get might not work with every guy, but it's a great way to filter out the ones who think we're worth their time, and the ones that don't.

Topic number three, "Mind over matter"

Yes, we more than likely will believe almost everything you tell us.

If you tell us you love us, we'll actually believe what you're saying. Funny huh?

If you tell us we mean the world to us, you've got us fooled.

Warning: We remember way more than you do. So when it all comes down to it and our hearts are broken, it does feel like everything you said was a lie, because you probably didn't realize we paid such close attention to what you said.

Mean what you say, ok? If you don't mean it, keep your mouth shut. It's that simple.

Topic three, "How We Treat You"

It freaks a guy out when a girl starts to care too much. Don't be worried that we care too much, worry when we start to not care at all.

It's ok, we really don't care if we text all day or care to know everything you're doing. We just want to make sure you're thinking about us, because we always do about you.

If you want to hang out with your friends, just tell us. Don't wait til' the break up and pull the "I never got to hang out with my friends" card. We have friends too, we're just more willing to sacrifice those nights.

We trust you, until you give us a reason not to. You bring that wrath upon yourself.

We're not mad at you that another girl is flirting with/creeping on you, we like that you have other friends that are girls, we just know how girls are.. go getters. If we ask you about it, we're probably just curious, not mad. So chill out!

We will do virtually anything for you, don't take advantage of it. We'll continue to do things even if we feel underappreciated.. but the frustration builds up, be careful.

Topic four "How We Want You to Treat Us"

Say thank you, say please. It means more than you think.

You can't treat us the same way you treat your friends. We're not a dude, we don't like being hassled the way you hassle your boys.

Yes, we love it when you tell us we look pretty.

You think we're mad when we're not talking, it's probably because you aren't always listening when we talk, so we figure, "Why bother?"

DO NOT LIE. We'll probably never trust you again.

Say what you mean, mean what you say.

Sacrifice you're manhood and hold our hand in public; kiss us in front of your friends; give us a hug out of no where, etc.

Your friends might give you crap for 10 minutes, if at all, but it gets you more than 10 minutes of our love.

We HATE doing all the work and making all the decisions. Most the time it's ok, but come on, do it every once in a while!

Topic five, "Fights"

We don't like fighting either, but we can't stand bottling up our emotions as long as you can.

The little things we fight about are actually probably about a bigger issue, take 3 minutes to think about what it might be: It's not that you didn't call, its that you said you would; we just want you to do what you say you're going to.. Get it?

Don't just sit there and say ok, we're sincerely trying to figure out an issue and make things better. Be a part of the conversation.

Just because a couple fights doesn't mean they're not happy, and just because a couple doesn't fight, doesn't mean they're happy. Ever thought of that?

Topic number six, "When We've Had Enough"

When we say we're walking away, we want you to give us a reason to stay; not a reason to look back and reconsider for half a second. Because once you're back to the same old ways, we're up and at it leaving again.

Like I said, we believe things, so when you put on you're tough guy facade, we really think you could care less.

Fight for us, because we'd fight for you.

We generally give you more chances than you deserve because we know you're a good guy, we want to see him again..

But - unfortunately, if we don't see him soon enough, that's the end; it's all about consistancy.

Topic number 7 "Bitches"

Just because we stand up for ourselves, our friends, and our morals, doesn't make us a bitch.

Just because we call you out when you're being disrespectful or rude, doesn't make us a bitch.

If we're hanging out and you ask nicely, we'll probably make you a sandwhich - tell us to "get in the kitchen woman" and we'll probably slap you.

Don't call us bitches for refusing to let you walk all over us. Or you'll have no luck getting any girl, and we'll make sure of that.

Yup, still goin - Topic number eight, "Turn off's"

We all make fun of people, but the second you start to make fun of someone for a reason they cannot control, e.g. handicapped people, gay people, etc. - turn off.

If you're rude to your mom. If you can't treat the woman who gave birth to you right, what makes us think you can treat us right? - turn off.

If you've ever cheated on a girl - turn off.

The second you put smoking, drinking, or any kind of drug before us - turn off.

If you can't have a good time sober - turn off.

Topic number nine, "Hooking Up"

If we hook up, why are you the pimp and we're the slut?

If you're randomly hooking up with a girl, don't try to have sex with her. Believe it or not, most of us want to love the guy we do that with.

If it's after midnight and you ask us to hang out - you might as well say, want to hook up? We're not stupid.

Sometimes we actually like to watch the movie playing.....

Honestly, don't ask a girl to go down on you. It's gross and if we wanted to, we'll do it on our own. Thanks.

Topic number ten, "Get it now?"

Girls are really not that hard to understand.

Treat us right.

Be respectful and respectable.

Be considerate, don't be creepy.

Tell the truth, not lies.

Love us and listen to us.

Be the nice guy who loves us & we love him.

Not the douche who breaks our hearts, or the one we leave.

Entailing: What do you want to be when you grow up?

We spend 12 years in school, 2 years getting our "generals", 2 years for graduate school, and another 4-8 years getting a P.H.D., Masters, etc.

After all of these years, we still do what puts money in our pocket, not happiness in our hearts.

Through our many years of education, we've had guest speakers about being a computer programmer, a doctor, a financial genius.

When was the last time you had a guest speaker who spoke about choosing a career that you loved, and not one that made you money.

Of course it’s possible to have a career that comes with the love of the profession as well as the money.

But too often, money and "security" comes before happiness.

I am in no way undermining the importance of have a secure job that will put food on the table and a roof over your head for your family.

An average person works 50-60 hours a week, shouldn't you be doing something that you enjoy?

Little kids since elementary are asked, "What do you want to be when you grow up?"

An astronaut, an actor/actress, a professional athlete, a rock star.

Then unfortunately, they are told "That industry is too hard", "That will get you nowhere in life", "That won't put a roof over your head"

& just like that, their dreams are shattered.

Adults claim the youth should be allowed to dream; but, if they are allowed to dream, shouldn't they be allowed to pursue?

Seldom are our dreams pursued.

Being an adult comes with responsibility, but no one said it had to be boring.

If sitting in a cubicle 50 hours a week makes you happy, sit away; although if sitting on the street corner playing your songs, trying to make it big makes you happy, you too should sit away.

If you want to save lives, go ahead and be a doctor. If you want to save lives, be a preacher; less money, same idea?

If you have a passion, you do it well. So why wouldn't you put everything you have into something if something you can do means everything to you?

On your death bed, no one will ask you, "So how much money did you make in your lifetime?" they will ask you, "Were you happy?", "Are you satisfied with how you spent your time, your life?"

Don't be the one to say, no.

Why, at 18 and 19 years old are we forced to pick a major?

Hell, I still struggle with what I want to do on Friday nights and have problems committing to what I want for lunch, how can I possibly commit to a lifetime career?

Why should someone with a higher diploma automatically receive a job?

Job opportunities should not be strictly education-level based.

Our parents, grandparents, and bosses complain how this generation is losing communication skills and face-to-face interaction, but may not hire us, not because of our likeability or interaction skills, but because we didn't pass a test a computer grades us on, or because my diploma doesn't say the three letters, P.H.D.?

Ok.

Way to set an example, hypocrite.

Decide who you want to be, not what your career aptitude test says you're "compatible" for.

If you want to be remembered, do something worth remembering.

Entailing: Step Two

I consider myself one of the luckiest girls out there.

I have some of the greatest friends out there & have had some really great memories with some very wonderful people.

Hearts break, but I've realized - nothing breaks that can't be fixed. It just takes time and rehabilitation.

Until an alcoholic or druggy admits they have a problem, they cannot make progress.

Until we accept heart break for what it is, we cannot heal.

They don't call progress, progress for no reason, or healing, healing for the hell of it.

Both of these things require time, but eventually they're ok again.

If you woke up in the morning, all better, it'd be a miracle.

No one made a rule book to healing a broken heart, only suggestions.

I've heard and frankly despised the quote, "If you love someone, let them go." I figured that made no sense!? If you loved someone, why would you let them go?

I understand now. And I don't think its a very easy thing to explain until you feel it yourself. But I'll try to explain..

It's fair. Relationships should be based on a 200% grading. 100% sureness from both people.

Love is understanding, if someone needs time away or apart, be merciful.

It will hurt and sting, but the minute you become understanding, life seems a whole lot easier.

It's so diffucult to listen to people say, maybe it's not meant to be.

You don't have to convince yourself it is, or isn't. You just have to be open to both ideas.

Some people break up and never get back together. Some people break up a million times and end up getting married. No relationship is the same.

You may be in the same boat as someone, but that doesn't mean you have the same sailing tactics.

I also hated the phrase, "Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened". For so long, I had the hardest time with this. Slowly it's growing on me. If good things always lasted, we'd never grow up, we'd never change, we'd never learn.

When times are tough, its hard to look back and think of how perfect things used to be. But eventually, we look back on the hard times, sitting on the good times, wondering if things would ever be this good if the bad hadn't happened.

Nothing in life is permanent. Things change. Be hopeful.

Break ups don't necessarily mean things are over. Sometimes we just need a break.

Think about sports, coaches give the team a break because without them, they couldn't "go hard" forever. It's a chance to catch our breath, rebuild our endurance.

A good friend once told me, "I know what I had with her was real love, but its over, so I know whoever I'm supposed to be with, it'll be that much better."

If someone doesn't want to be with you, someone else does.

It takes a long time to walk away from love, and even longer to embrace new love.

The greatest love is when you realize you don't need them in your life, you just want them there.

You really don't know what you have til' its gone, so if you get it back make sure you realize what you have. Because eventually, it may not come back.

They say when one door closes, another one opens. Well I think if we close the door, we should just leave it unlocked; live our lives, but welcome someone back if they show up again.

I don't know what should happen, I only know what I want to happen.

I know what I want to happen, but I don't know what will happen.

One day at a time.

Entailing: Broken

When I was a little girl, I dreamed of falling in love.

I always heard about the good things, but they never told me about having your heartbroken.

I heard once, If we're meant to be, we'll end up together, but I believe if you're meant to be, you never would have wanted to part in the first place.

I believe we put everything we have on the line for someone, and would do it all again even after they rip it away from us.

I think it's strange how someone can hurt you so bad, but all you want it them, but even more, you want them to be happy.

I find it ironic when someone thinks they are doing something out of good, but all it does is damage what was fine in the first place. But I know I couldn't turn down another opportunity.

I think its intolerable how the heart breaks.

I wish it just simply changed, like changing your clothes;; no hassle, no pain, just something different.

Sometimes I wish I could snap my fingers and fast forward to happier times.

Tears are strange, but I think without them, no one would ever know how we were feeling, especially when we're at a loss for words.

I hate when you feel helpess, worthless, lost, empty, betratyed, and the other person seems perfectly fine.

But honestly, I know they're not fine. Pride takes its turn every now and then.

It's terrifying to decide whether or not to move on. If I wait, they will decide they don't want it. If I don't wait, they decide they will. Its a coin toss.

All you want to do is tell them you miss them. But you have to pretend you don't even know them.

It's hard not to regret something that hurts so bad, and its hard not to go back to someone who's damaged you.

If you loved someone, wouldn't you never want to let them go?

If you loved someone and let them go, wouldn't you do everything you could to keep them in your life?

People tell you not to cry, well they can all go to hell.

You don't remember your last kiss. Because you didn't think it'd be the last.

You wish you would have known being with them the last time, so you wouldnt take advantage of holding their hand one more time, being able to looking them in the eyes and tell them you love them.

Everywhere you look is a reminder.

You know you should put it all in a box, but not seeing it will only make you feel more empty than you already do.

Suddenly, life becomes colorless; spitting images in black and white.

You can be told 100 times its not your fault, but we will always think it is.

No matter how many people we're with, we still feel alone.

Someone new? Bigger and better things? If we thought that, we would have been moving on a long time ago.

Every lie is like a spill of gasoline on the heart, til eventually the match is dropped and the truth comes out. & thats exactly how it feels.

swollen eyes, quivering lips, sick stomach, sleepless nights, welcome to the world of the broken hearted.

Entailing Sometimes..

While waiting for my food a few days ago at lunch, I decided to pass the time by staring out the window at a group of pigeons.

Normally, when one bird flys away, they all do. But this was no ordinary group of pigeons.

Taking advantage of their ability to fly, they spread their wings and flew less than 10 feet away; minus one.

When all the birds decided to fly, one decided to go against the norm and walk the distance.

Immediately I laughed out loud to myself and thought, "I have a new respect for pigeons. He walked even though he could fly. That guy just didn't give a $%@!."

Thank you rebellious pigeon, you have inspired my next blog post. Who woulda' thought?

Sometimes, it's ok to be the rebel.

Sometimes, we just need to be.

Don't get me wrong, I am in no way encouraging bad behavior, but, nor am I condemning it.

I'm sure we can all agree, life is boring sometimes.

You're a liar if you say you've never wanted to do something ambitious, because you're sick of being the "good kid" or just for the hell of it.

They key to bad behavior? don't let it become a bad habit.

Behavior is an every now and then sort of thing. Habit is an every day, or more than you should, sort of thing. Don't get them confused.

Excuses of a rebel:

- Class at 8 a.m.? Oops, did you hear my alarm? I sure didn't!
- You know.. I just thought that yellow light was going to be longer.
- I wish I could be in class to turn in that paper, but I think I caught the stomache flu.
- Officer, I think my speedometer is broken..
- I'm 21.. Until I get ID-ed.
- Sorry Mom, I really want to help you clean the house, but I have a study group!

OR

"I just wasn't feelin' it":

- I have a test tomorrow.. Hopefully we can drop our lowest score.
- It's 5:00 p.m., thats funny I have to be at work at 5 p.m., hope I don't get fired.
- What curfew?
- That stop sign is useful.. when I care.
- Paycheck: I really wanted that "_______" more than I wanted to put it in the bank.

Are you relating yet?

Mom and Dad, sometimes we stay up all night long doing homework, so ya, sometimes it's perfectly fine to sleep til noon.

Professor, I sincerely apologize that somtimes my video game and facebook stalking for 3 hours is more important than your homework assignment.

Officer, you pulled my friend over for going 4 miles over, so sometimes I figure it's a go big or go home situation, right?

Car riding my ass, I wish I cared that you almost rear-ended me when I brake checked you, but sometimes I just don't.. It'd be your fault.

Annoying person in class, Sorry you got your feelings hurt, but sometimes I just can't bite my tongue.

Basically, sometimes we just don't do things according to ettique, law, or status quo. And sometimes, that'd perfectly fine.

Give yourself a little leash, but don't let go.

Sometimes I think we all need to be like the pigeon didn't give a %^#! and walked to his birdie friends.

I never would have thought a pigeon could teach me a lesson about life, but he did.

Don't get stuck in the rut of your everyday, plotted out, robot-like life.

Embrace the dirty looks and petty remarks. Go ahead and be a rebel.. sometimes.