Girls and boys are different.
More girls wear their heart on their sleeve than boys. Some guys do, but lets be honest- a girl isn't afraid to tell the world when she's in love, and she sure isn't afraid to let it know when she's heartbroken or wronged.
Not every guy hurts a girl, but every girl has been hurt- which means everything.
When she's been lied to- don't tell her to calm down.
When she's been betrayed- don't tell her to let it go
When she's given you everything, and gotten nothing in return- don't tell her she didn't have to do it.
When she's given you more chances than you deserve- don't abuse it
When she talks to her friends about you because you won't listen to her- don't tell her not to talk to them about things.
When you make fun of her in front of your friends- don't tell her to "take a joke"
When she's crying- don't tell her to stop.
When you think you she won't leave you- think twice.
Girls have a tendency to hold on too long, guys have a tendency to let them go.
Just because a girl has put up with a lot, doesn't mean she'll keep doing it.
When a girl wants to tell you she's had enough and is done- she wants you to give her a reason to stay. But she's scared; scared you won't stop her, scared you'll let her walk away. So she stays.
And then that day comes.
The day where she realizes, she doesn't care whether or not you stop her. The day when she finally believes, herself, what everyone else has been telling her, "You deserve better."
And she stands up; a little stronger, a little prouder.
And all you see, is the fading image of her walking away.
Maybe you care, and maybe you don't.
But one things for sure- with her head held high, she never looks back.
9.01.2011
Entailing: The Funny Thing About Love
Once someone realizes what they had, the other person is walking away, leaving a note behind saying "You shouldn't have had to realize it, you should've known all along."
8.05.2011
Entailing: Winter Winds & A Lesson or Two.
Mumford & Sons: Winter Winds
Every song I listen to, I listen to the words. This is the song that evokes the most emotion in me. It flows with relativity and truth about life and love. I would suggest reading the lyrics, and embrace the words.
These days, I've realized that people will do what they want to do, regardless of how you feel. They will tell you what you want to hear, tell you they'll do things, then wont, manipulate you into believing them, and make you feel like you have no right be upset about it.
Human nature means we can tolerate pain, but that doesn't mean we're immune to it.
There will always be people who don't like you, some for good reason, and some with no reason at all; we do the same.
Don't ever tell someone you love them, and treat them otherwise. If you love them, don't ever turn your back on them, or they will turn their back on you.
Be the kind of friend you would want to be friends with.
If you want to be trusted, don't lie.
Don't take advantage of the fact that someone loves you, or would do anything for you.
Don't take more love than you give- that's called being selfish.
Also, don't read this and be angry.
Finally, be happy for someone else. And realize when and if you aren't the thing that makes them happy.
Here are the lyrics- enjoy.
As the winter winds litter London with lonely hearts
Oh the warmth in your eyes swept me into your arms
Was it love or fear of the cold that led us through the night?
For every kiss your beauty trumped my doubt
And my head told my heart
"Let love grow"
But my heart told my head
"This time no
This time no"
We'll be washed and buried one day my girl
And the time we were given will be left for the world
The flesh that lived and loved will be eaten by plague
So let the memories be good for those who stay
And my head told my heart
"Let love grow"
But my heart told my head
"This time no"
Yes, my heart told my head
"This time no
This time no"
Oh the shame that sent me off from the God that I once loved
Was the same that sent me into your arms
Oh and pestilence is won when you are lost and I am gone
And no hope, no hope will overcome
And if your strife strikes at your sleep
Remember spring swaps snow for leaves
You'll be happy and wholesome again
When the city clears and sun ascends
And my head told my heart
"Let love grow"
But my heart told my head
"This time no"
And my head told my heart
"Let love grow"
But my heart told my head
"This time no
This time no"
8.02.2011
Entailing: Curve Balls & Poker Cards
I used to rely on the phrase, "As long as we're happy, that's all that matters."
But I've selfishly been living as, "As long as I'm happy, that's all that matters."
and let me tell ya, karma is a bitch.
When you want something so bad, you'll do almost anything to get it. But when you try to force things, how real is that?
A wise owl, that I also call my mom, told me that you can't change any one's heart, and no matter what that's what they end up following. You either have to stomach the blows, or turn your back on it.
Sometimes in life we get so caught up in what we want, and what people will think, that we forget to look at things on a more cellular level.
Sometimes we let our emotions get the best of us, and sometimes, we have to pretend they don't exist.
The truth is, life and love are complicated- and no one fully understands it.
Life throws us all sorts of curve balls, and deals us all sorts of cards.
But just because a curve ball is hard to hit, doesn't mean you don't swing. And just because we might end up folding, doesn't mean we won't bet.
Rarely is everybody on the same page, some people read quicker, some read slower. And that's how life is. Some people learn and grow up quicker, and for some, it just takes a little more time. But eventually, we all finish the book.
It's hard to make a decision when we're worried we might regret it.
Be understanding, even when you don't understand.
Everything is better as 100%. Give what you do everything you have, give someone everything you are; & pray they do the same.
It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all- even if it doesn't feel like it.
Let change happen, even if you're scared.
It's better to trust everyone than no one.
Don't build walls. The higher you build your walls, the farther you fall.
Don't focus on what you can't have, what you don't have, and what you can't do- but what you can have, do have, and can do.
My mom told me, for every one thing you aren't happy about, think of 10 things you are- Even its 10 breaths, because at least you're living.
Don't worry about trying to be someone, or something. Pursuing something gives your life meaning, but don't think you're life doesn't mean anything if you're not pursuing something.
Life is one big poker game; One round you might lose all your money, one round you might get the worst cards, and one round you might win.
But the beauty of it, each round is somewhat of a new start. Each day is a new round in this endless game; a chance to go about things a little bit differently, hoping the result turns out better than the last.
Just pick up the cards and play, because that's all we can really do.
But I've selfishly been living as, "As long as I'm happy, that's all that matters."
and let me tell ya, karma is a bitch.
When you want something so bad, you'll do almost anything to get it. But when you try to force things, how real is that?
A wise owl, that I also call my mom, told me that you can't change any one's heart, and no matter what that's what they end up following. You either have to stomach the blows, or turn your back on it.
Sometimes in life we get so caught up in what we want, and what people will think, that we forget to look at things on a more cellular level.
Sometimes we let our emotions get the best of us, and sometimes, we have to pretend they don't exist.
The truth is, life and love are complicated- and no one fully understands it.
Life throws us all sorts of curve balls, and deals us all sorts of cards.
But just because a curve ball is hard to hit, doesn't mean you don't swing. And just because we might end up folding, doesn't mean we won't bet.
Rarely is everybody on the same page, some people read quicker, some read slower. And that's how life is. Some people learn and grow up quicker, and for some, it just takes a little more time. But eventually, we all finish the book.
It's hard to make a decision when we're worried we might regret it.
Be understanding, even when you don't understand.
Everything is better as 100%. Give what you do everything you have, give someone everything you are; & pray they do the same.
It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all- even if it doesn't feel like it.
Let change happen, even if you're scared.
It's better to trust everyone than no one.
Don't build walls. The higher you build your walls, the farther you fall.
Don't focus on what you can't have, what you don't have, and what you can't do- but what you can have, do have, and can do.
My mom told me, for every one thing you aren't happy about, think of 10 things you are- Even its 10 breaths, because at least you're living.
Don't worry about trying to be someone, or something. Pursuing something gives your life meaning, but don't think you're life doesn't mean anything if you're not pursuing something.
Life is one big poker game; One round you might lose all your money, one round you might get the worst cards, and one round you might win.
But the beauty of it, each round is somewhat of a new start. Each day is a new round in this endless game; a chance to go about things a little bit differently, hoping the result turns out better than the last.
Just pick up the cards and play, because that's all we can really do.
6.21.2011
Entailing: Forgive, Free, and Fulfill
In our lives, when we've been hurt there's an awful part of us that becomes bitter- and that bitterness is what really keeps us from being happy.
It's natural to become bitter, and to wish that somehow, those people could feel the pain they put you through.
But lets face it, they never will.
When someone has the ability to hurt you, they can almost control you- emotionally wise that is.
So think about this, if someone has the ability to hurt you, and chooses to, why are you letting them?
Pull it together, and control yourself. When you can do that, it's amazing how much better things are.
I hit rock bottom, and now, I'm rapidly climbing back up again.
Surround yourself with the people who picked you up when someone else knocked you down.
Do the things that make you smile in place of the things that made you frown.
Live the way you weren't before.
Everyone stresses so much about relying on someone else, and in turn- it happens. With relationships, and friendships. But at the end of the day you're alone; your own opinions, your own influence, your own consequences.
So in the end, if we're left with ourselves- why do we rely so much on the influence, approval, and reliability of someone else?
Don't get me wrong, relying on people can be some of the best things out there. But it's kind of like the difference between a three legged chair, and a three legged dog.
Imagine that the fourth leg of a chair and of a dog represents someone/something in your life.
The three legged chair falls over when they lose one leg, but the three legged dog- he can still stand his own; The chair needs its fourth leg, where as the dog just prefers it.
I think we should all be like the three legged dog.
People always tell us to "forgive and forget"- well that's one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. How often do we really forget about something?
If someone hurts us, they obviously meant/mean something, thus making them impossible to forget.
I think it's unhealthy to forget things. I'm in no way saying dwell on it, but use it as fuel to change the way you look that something.
I think we should think more in the terms of, "Forgive, free, and fulfill"
There is no good advice that anyone can give to someone who's in that place, because if you've been there, no matter what anyone says- it doesn't help.
It's not that you wake up one morning, all better again. It's a time frame of healing.
However long it takes you to get to just having a good day- just know you'll get there. Once you do, you'll wonder how you ever were having such a bad day.
We live out lives one way for so long, we don't know how to live it any other way- but with a little transitioning, and a little push- you'll say to yourself, "Wow, I can't believe I was living like that for so long."
When you feel no sort of confident, there will be someone who makes you feel worth while again.
When you feel like nothing, there will be someone who makes you feel like everything again.
When you feel hopeless, there will be someone who makes you feel hopeful again.
When you feel like you're dying inside, there will be someone who makes you feel alive again.
When you feel sad, there will be someone who will make you happy again.
That person is you. When it comes down it, you rescue yourself. Sure, other people help you along the way, but like I said before, at the end of the night, you decide for yourself.
No matter how much you tell an insecure person they are pretty, they won't believe it. Only they can make themselves believe it. Get it?
At the end of the night, you decide whether or not you mean something to the world. Not the magazines and media, not the boy/girl who likes you, not your friends- just you.
It's pretty easy to decide who we are, and be confident in who we are. But where we most struggle with, is when people try to tell us what we aren't.
Not pretty? Not tall? Not skinny? Not blue-eyed? Not in-style? Not tough enough? Not sensitive enough? Well guess what we can say to all those people? Take a look in the f*cking mirror, and tell me that again.
Life is a gift. And despite the negative connotation on Indian giving- be an Indian giver of life. Give yourself the gift of life, and pass it on.
Borrow a dollar, & lend a dollar.
Get hugs, & give hugs.
Cry on a shoulder, & be the shoulder.
Answer a call, & make a call.
Smile back, & smile at.
Be loved, & love.
Be the passenger, & be the driver.
Be helped, & help.
Don't always be the giver, but certainly don't always be the taker. Create equilibrium in your life.
There will always be people hurting us, and we'll always hurt someone. But we can't dwell on it for too long- there's way too much life to live.
Don't feel like you need to forget something happened, or forget someone.
Just forgive them, free yourself, and live fully.
Once we can do that, the sun really does seem to shine a little bit brighter..
It's natural to become bitter, and to wish that somehow, those people could feel the pain they put you through.
But lets face it, they never will.
When someone has the ability to hurt you, they can almost control you- emotionally wise that is.
So think about this, if someone has the ability to hurt you, and chooses to, why are you letting them?
Pull it together, and control yourself. When you can do that, it's amazing how much better things are.
I hit rock bottom, and now, I'm rapidly climbing back up again.
Surround yourself with the people who picked you up when someone else knocked you down.
Do the things that make you smile in place of the things that made you frown.
Live the way you weren't before.
Everyone stresses so much about relying on someone else, and in turn- it happens. With relationships, and friendships. But at the end of the day you're alone; your own opinions, your own influence, your own consequences.
So in the end, if we're left with ourselves- why do we rely so much on the influence, approval, and reliability of someone else?
Don't get me wrong, relying on people can be some of the best things out there. But it's kind of like the difference between a three legged chair, and a three legged dog.
Imagine that the fourth leg of a chair and of a dog represents someone/something in your life.
The three legged chair falls over when they lose one leg, but the three legged dog- he can still stand his own; The chair needs its fourth leg, where as the dog just prefers it.
I think we should all be like the three legged dog.
People always tell us to "forgive and forget"- well that's one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. How often do we really forget about something?
If someone hurts us, they obviously meant/mean something, thus making them impossible to forget.
I think it's unhealthy to forget things. I'm in no way saying dwell on it, but use it as fuel to change the way you look that something.
I think we should think more in the terms of, "Forgive, free, and fulfill"
Step 1: Forgive: Forgive whoever hurt you. But actually do it. Don't just say, "Ok, I forgive you." or, "I'm over it, lets leave it in the past." You should never forgive someone unless you actually can, it helps no one if you can't really forgive them.
By not forgiving someone, the person it's really hurting most is yourself. Which leads to the next step.
Step 2: Free: Holding a grudge hurts no one but yourself. By forgiving someone, you free yourself of the weight on yours shoulders, and the burdens on your heart.
Once you can free yourself from the anger and bitterness towards someone else, you can finally get to the final step.
Step 3: Fulfill: Basically, live your life to the fullest; hurt free, guilt free, and free spirited.I firmly believe that time heals all things. And I also believe that there are places in your life where you literally don't think things can get any better, and when someone tells you time heals all things, you saying to yourself, "Well why the hell won't time go any faster?"
There is no good advice that anyone can give to someone who's in that place, because if you've been there, no matter what anyone says- it doesn't help.
It's not that you wake up one morning, all better again. It's a time frame of healing.
- A bad day
- A bad day with a few good moments
- A bad day with a few good hours
- A good day with a few bad hours
- A good day with a few bad moments
- A good day
However long it takes you to get to just having a good day- just know you'll get there. Once you do, you'll wonder how you ever were having such a bad day.
We live out lives one way for so long, we don't know how to live it any other way- but with a little transitioning, and a little push- you'll say to yourself, "Wow, I can't believe I was living like that for so long."
When you feel no sort of confident, there will be someone who makes you feel worth while again.
When you feel like nothing, there will be someone who makes you feel like everything again.
When you feel hopeless, there will be someone who makes you feel hopeful again.
When you feel like you're dying inside, there will be someone who makes you feel alive again.
When you feel sad, there will be someone who will make you happy again.
That person is you. When it comes down it, you rescue yourself. Sure, other people help you along the way, but like I said before, at the end of the night, you decide for yourself.
No matter how much you tell an insecure person they are pretty, they won't believe it. Only they can make themselves believe it. Get it?
At the end of the night, you decide whether or not you mean something to the world. Not the magazines and media, not the boy/girl who likes you, not your friends- just you.
It's pretty easy to decide who we are, and be confident in who we are. But where we most struggle with, is when people try to tell us what we aren't.
Not pretty? Not tall? Not skinny? Not blue-eyed? Not in-style? Not tough enough? Not sensitive enough? Well guess what we can say to all those people? Take a look in the f*cking mirror, and tell me that again.
Life is a gift. And despite the negative connotation on Indian giving- be an Indian giver of life. Give yourself the gift of life, and pass it on.
Borrow a dollar, & lend a dollar.
Get hugs, & give hugs.
Cry on a shoulder, & be the shoulder.
Answer a call, & make a call.
Smile back, & smile at.
Be loved, & love.
Be the passenger, & be the driver.
Be helped, & help.
Don't always be the giver, but certainly don't always be the taker. Create equilibrium in your life.
There will always be people hurting us, and we'll always hurt someone. But we can't dwell on it for too long- there's way too much life to live.
Don't feel like you need to forget something happened, or forget someone.
Just forgive them, free yourself, and live fully.
Once we can do that, the sun really does seem to shine a little bit brighter..
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