Entailing: Worry Less, Live More.

The last year of my life has been such a growing year. Considering who I am today, I can't believe I ever was who I was back then, but I'm so thankful for it.

I used to over-think, over-prepare, and over-analyze, and truth be told- I was miserable.

Now, I over-eat, over-sleep, and am completely over-joyed.

I guess you could say I'm living my life over-easy; you know, not doing much, just letting it run wherever it wants.


What have I learned exactly?

• The more you think, the more problematic things become. 
• The mind plays nasty tricks on us, try to catch yourself before launching yourself into an endless labyrinth of thoughts.
•  Don't give out too much information
• Talking about how you feel and what you think is good sometimes, but not all the time, about everything, especially if you don't really think about what you're saying first. Sometimes it's better to just write it down, or keep it in, rather than risk saying something and starting an argument. Think about what you're about to say and think, "Is it worth it?"
• Be somebody you'd want to be friends with
• It's hard to find (and keep) friends if you're not very good at being one. Pay attention to your gossip levels, would you want to be friends with someone who can't keep their mouth shut?
• There really are things you can, and cannot control. 
• When you're faced with an issue ask yourself, "Can I control this?" If so, don't worry you can handle it! If not, don't worry, there's nothing you can do anyway, don't waste your emotions over it. 
• Learn to say, "Yes"
• Share. There's just something about doing so that makes you feel better about yourself. Say yes to your mistakes. Learning to own up and admit to your mistakes feels so much better than wasting your time searching for an excuse, lie, or blame.
• Learn to say, "No."
• You may not care if other people respect you, but other people care if you respect yourself. Learn to say no to that random guy, learn to say no to that extra drink. Even learn how to say no to going out, give yourself a night in- catch up with yourself.
• Forgive people, even when they least deserve it.
• Grudges hurt nobody but yourself. When you learn to let things go, and let the past, be the past, burdens are lifted and you can breathe again. 
• Learn to laugh at yourself
• If people don't think you're funny, someone has to.
• Take embarrassing and embarrassed out of your vocabulary.
• It's accepting that you're human, and yes- you occasionally,  take ugly pictures, fart on accident, say the wrong thing at the wrong time, pick your nose, pick your wedgies, have zits, have love handles, don't understand something even everyone else does, and it's all perfectly fine.
• Shrug your shoulders
• Pick and choose your battles with people, there's nothing worse than making something out of nothing. When you hear rumors about yourself, don't let it bother you- they don't know you anyway. But if they're true, accept that it's virtually impossible to do anything without people finding out, so own up to it.
• You'll talk
• One fight doesn't mean you're never going to see/talk to them again. It's better to take some time to cool down and get your head back on straight. Be rational.
• Be proud of yourself, in a humble way.
• Life can be hard, so when you succeed in something, be proud about it! Just don't brag about it. People stop listening/caring when they could retell the same story themselves from listening to you tell it so many times.
• It's ok to be sad, it's ok to feel something, but don't let it last.
• Don't try to ignore your feelings when they come, but don't torture yourself. Shed a couple tears, suck it up, and get back out there. The longer you let things sit and dwell, the quicker they spoil.

I could go on for days on the things I've learned in the last year. People find bliss in many different ways. Go with the way that works for you, because that's all that really matters. There's nothing worse than not living the life you wish you could.

Entailing: It starts with you

As humans, we tend to put our worth and value in what other people say about us.

We rely on the positive things people say to make us feel good, and let the bad things tear us down.

People talk behind our back and criticize our every move without even knowing us, and yet, are still affected by the things we hear, and the things they say.

There are a lot of people who write really rude comments on the things I write, does it make me feel stupid? Sure. Does it discourage me? Definitely. But you know, that's ok.

I just have to remind myself, there is no way that I can write to every body's liking. There is no way that everyone will always like what I have to say, or like me for that matter.

The truth of the matter, we just have to realize that at the end of the day, what we think of ourselves is the most important opinion.

The best and strongest source of positive reinforcement should come from ourselves. Be your own cheerleader.

People say that you can't love anyone else until you love yourself. I think that's 100% true.

If you aren't confident in who you are, when you form friendships and relationships, you will rely completely on the opinion of everyone else, which in reality is unstable and likely to change depending on the own person's opinion of themselves, and their own circumstances- therefore it has no real correlation to us.

If you don't think you're pretty, smart, funny, etc., it won't matter if someone tells you you are, you won't believe it anyway.

Now, there's a fine line between confidence and cockiness.

Confidence: Being happy with you are.
Cockiness: Wanting everyone to know who you are.

Confidence comes with the ability to encourage others to find their own self worth, and giving others positive reinforcement, but cockiness makes others feel inferior.

I hate when people say, "Haters are my motivators", and they supposedly, 'don't care' what people think about them. If people hate you, so what? If you are really confident in yourself, and 'don't care' you would just keep living your life.

Those who care the least, react the least. The who care the most, react the most.

We are all human, and we all get discouraged sometimes, and we all care somewhat what people think about us. But don't let it consume you.

I remember when I was little saying, "I'm rubber, you're glue- what you say bounces off of me, and sticks to you". Who knew kids were so smart. Basically, just shrug off the hurtful things people have to say- and embrace the good things.

We all love getting compliments, but we know how annoying it is when someone can't take one.

Learn how to take a compliment, and give plenty.

If someone who doesn't feel good about themselves pays you a compliment, don't feel a little guilty accepting it? It seems almost in-genuine, and they're just fishing for one back.


A compliment feels so much better coming from a person who isn't expecting one back.

When you learn to love yourself, you learn to love your life, all of it; the good AND the bad. The good things seem even better, and the bad things don't seem so bad anymore.

It's a ripple effect. If you feel good about yourself without relying on others, you can make others feel good about themselves too because you aren't trying to be in the spotlight- and ironically, that'll make you stand out more. Lead by example, because people will notice.

It's easier to love someone who can love themselves. At that point, you don't 'need' anyone, it's just a bonus to have them around.

Be the person others admire, simply because you admire yourself.

Blogger's Back.

I decided to put blogger on the back burner, and conform to tumblr. because everyone told me it was "cooler" and whatever.

What did I learn from tumblr? That no one took the time out of their day to read what I actually had to write. What's the point of that?

I learned that in order to get "likes" and "followers" I just had to post pictures that "said a million words". I'd rather just say a million words.

I like pictures, but I'm not a photographer.

I love writing- I'm an author, I'm a poet. I'm a word connoisseur.

I decided that just because something is popular doesn't mean it's the best/right thing for us.

tumblr may be more "trendy", but I think it's overrated.

Trends are overrated. Other people's opinions are overrated.

Why do we always feel the need to conform and do what society tells us to?

Well let me tell you something, 

I say no.

Blogger's back.

Entailing: Epiphany

When it comes down to it, all we can do is accept what is. All you can do is smile about what you have and cherish the live that's been given to us.

I've learned that just because one person doesn't want you, doesn't mean no body does. 
I've learned  that sometimes we end up caring for people who simply don't care back.
I've learned that sometimes it really isn't me, but you.

I've learned that even on the coldest mornings, there can be warmth.

I've learned that in the hardest moments, there are good friends to pick you up.
I've learned that even best friends get in fights, but only the real ones forgive each other.

I've learned that even among the most broken of things, there can be healing.

I've learned that drinking your problems away, just might help for a little while.

I've learned that living paycheck to paycheck is ok, sometimes.

I've learned that very few people put other people's happiness above their own.

I've learned that I can't control my feelings towards someone, and neither can anyone else.

I've learned that as long as you give your everything, you can at least say you tried.

I've learned that there is nothing better than surrounding yourself with good people.

I've learned that I'd rather get around now, than be the 40 year old woman who cheats on her husband.

I've learned that even when the clouds loom, the sun is still there, waiting with patience.

I've learned that if you don't have confidence in yourself, neither will other people.

I've learned that it does matter what people think about you, but it matters more about what you think about yourself.

I've learned that if you take things one day at a time, the hardships in life seems manageable.

I've learned that complimenting other people makes you a happier person.

I've learned that red bull contains bull testosterone, and that's gross.

I've learned that "cover songs" are just like our perspectives in life: you might not like something, til you hear/look at it in a different way.

I've learned that no matter how many cute outfits you buy, or how many new hair cuts you get, the pain doesn't stay away- but it helps.

I've learned that standing up for yourself might make you a bitch- Ok, then I'm a bitch.

I've learned that when someone says, "I just want to be friends", they actually don't.
I've learned that there are a thousand nice ways to say something mean, but I'm not dumb. I get it.

I've learned that no matter what, we have to deal with the things we are given. There is no getting around them, no avoiding them. Just dealing with them. Stop wasting your time complaining about them; take a deep breath, and figure out how to cope.

Open your eyes to the world, and cry for those who are truly suffering- not our own selfish issues.

Life is beautiful- don't drown it in ugly problems.

The sun doesn't stop shining and the world doesn't stop spinning, so we shouldn't stop living.

Cheers; to moving forward.

Entailing: Live Like We're Dying

I've had a lot of bad days, bad moments, and bad memories. But at the end of the day, I'm pretty sure I've had more great days, great moments, and great memories.

I feel like my life wouldn't be nearly as great if it weren't for the people in my life. Also, I feel like I don't tell them that enough either.

I'd like to take this opportunity to thank all the amazing people I'm surrounded by every day.

When you think back on the best moments of your life, were they spent alone? Or with somebody else?

We all need time to ourselves, and time to recharge and regroup; but we are naturally drawn to other people; in friendship and in love.

Have you really thought about who you'd spend your last living day with? Or who you'd call with your last goodbyes?

Are you constantly making sure those people know you love them? And if not, how can you be so sure you'll get another chance?

We forget how fragile life really is, and that it literally could end at any moment, at any given time.

When we make decisions, we always assume we have more time; more time to apologize, make things right with someone, take back what we've done, or do what we didn't do.

But there's no way to be sure. The only thing we know we have for sure, is right now; and now; and now; etc.

If you love someone, tell them.

If you have dreams, chase them.

If you wrong someone, fix it.

If you want something, go get it.

If you aren't happy, get there.

If you have a good thing, don't throw it away.

If you have an opportunity, take it.

Don't let your life come to an end, and wish you would have lived it any other way.

With your last breath, be able to look back, smiling, and saying, "I wouldn't change a thing."