In elementary happiness was defined by being first in line or how many desserts were in our brown paper sacks at lunch. In junior high happiness was defined by knowing all the words to the coolest songs on the radio and getting our permits. In high school, happiness was defined by friday night football games and doing the "cool thing".
Taylor Swift said it perfectly, "People are people and sometimes we change our mind". Human nature is to chase after what makes you happy, but sometimes, what makes us happy changes.
Maybe instead of chocolate pudding, you like vanilla. Maybe instead of Lord of the Rings, you like Harry Potter. Maybe instead of him/her, it's someone else. Or maybe instead of chasing, its walking away.
An unexpected source told me earlier this week, "Just do what makes you happy." In my head, I couldn't figure out what that was. For so long I thought I was doing what was making me happy? Obviously, I was wrong.
"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened" Wise words by the famous Dr. Seuss. Although he wrote children's books about green eggs and ham, he sure knew a thing or two about life.
It's easy to lash out when we're sad, angry and upset. Its easy to make mistakes we can't take back. It's hard when we realize in desperation to maintain the happiness, all did was drive it away. It's hard to accept it's time for a change. Realistically, welcome to life.
I've come to realize, we never lose what makes us happy, it just changes.
A common phrase, "Happiness is a choice" is my mantra from here on out, Along with Albert Einstein's “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” Sentences well pronounced Al. Sentences well pronounced.
Are we the happiest when everything seems to be going right? Or does everything seem to go right when we are the happiest?
A few things to figure and work on I suppose. A deep breath, a sigh of relief. Cheers to moving forward.
1.31.2010
Entailing Tomorrow
Tomorrow is a new day. And I think from here on out, I'll be just fine.
Sometimes all it takes is a few words from an unexpected source to make you realize you're fighting a winless battle.
"Its not starting over, it's just going back to the way it was before and doing things a little bit different"
Sometimes all it takes is a few words from an unexpected source to make you realize you're fighting a winless battle.
"Its not starting over, it's just going back to the way it was before and doing things a little bit different"
1.19.2010
Entailing Overthinking
Why is it when we need to think the most our mind draws a blank, yet when we need think the least, a thousand entangled thoughts swim in our heads.
The other day I was desperately searching for the answers to the problems on my AP Statistics test. After a late night of studying, I thought the chances were slim my score would be unsatisfying. Confidently strolling out of the class I told myself, "Piece of cake". Naturally, that was not the case when our scores were returned.
The average was a 10/16 on the multiple choice, and I received a 10. A sigh of dissatisfaction flowed out, and my teacher said, "You probably just over thought it."
How can that be? Over thinking? As if I could lay my hand on the paper and hope my hands would take over, selecting the correct answers. If only!
How about when you don't hear back from a significant other or friend for an hour, or however amount of time is "long" to you?
Suddenly, and naturally, we assume the worst. Asking ourselves the most outlandish questions. Did I do something wrong? Does he/she not like me anymore? Are they avoiding me? My favorite of all, maybe they didn't get me call/text.
What ends up really happening? They fell asleep, they were playing xbox, they were talking to their family members/friends. Feeling foolish for getting upset, we try to avoid getting mad. Although, without fail, there are those psychos who send 13 texts within the hour, 23 phone calls without a message.
Come on people, why over think?
My favorite movie, "He's just not that into you" says it perfectly, "If he wants to talk to you, he will." I think that goes for all.
Human nature is to think, but is that always the right thing to do? Maybe sometimes we just need to turn off the switch in our brain and say to ourselves, "I think I'll pass on that one." It may end up sparing us all from a little pain.
Just a bit of food for thought.
The other day I was desperately searching for the answers to the problems on my AP Statistics test. After a late night of studying, I thought the chances were slim my score would be unsatisfying. Confidently strolling out of the class I told myself, "Piece of cake". Naturally, that was not the case when our scores were returned.
The average was a 10/16 on the multiple choice, and I received a 10. A sigh of dissatisfaction flowed out, and my teacher said, "You probably just over thought it."
How can that be? Over thinking? As if I could lay my hand on the paper and hope my hands would take over, selecting the correct answers. If only!
How about when you don't hear back from a significant other or friend for an hour, or however amount of time is "long" to you?
Suddenly, and naturally, we assume the worst. Asking ourselves the most outlandish questions. Did I do something wrong? Does he/she not like me anymore? Are they avoiding me? My favorite of all, maybe they didn't get me call/text.
What ends up really happening? They fell asleep, they were playing xbox, they were talking to their family members/friends. Feeling foolish for getting upset, we try to avoid getting mad. Although, without fail, there are those psychos who send 13 texts within the hour, 23 phone calls without a message.
Come on people, why over think?
My favorite movie, "He's just not that into you" says it perfectly, "If he wants to talk to you, he will." I think that goes for all.
Human nature is to think, but is that always the right thing to do? Maybe sometimes we just need to turn off the switch in our brain and say to ourselves, "I think I'll pass on that one." It may end up sparing us all from a little pain.
Just a bit of food for thought.
1.18.2010
Entailing Aspirations
An extremely common and misused phrase, "I know exactly what you're going through". Rarely ever does one experience exactly what another does. Yet, we still find comfort in that fact.
The average being longs for a confidant who relates on the same level they do. Who understands exactly why you have the urge to say "That's what she said" every opportunity you get, or why after he/she mistreats you, you still end up back with them.
The world is filled with contradictions, opinions, questions and answers. It all seems less intimidating when someone else is there with you solving the puzzles of life.
If we were provided life with all the answers, existence would be lifeless and boring to say the least. I plan to challenge the big questions, as well as the little; The silly and the serious. As for providing answers, who's to say I'll get them right? Who has the answer key to life after all? The big guy upstairs of course. For now, I am simply taking the test.
The average being longs for a confidant who relates on the same level they do. Who understands exactly why you have the urge to say "That's what she said" every opportunity you get, or why after he/she mistreats you, you still end up back with them.
The world is filled with contradictions, opinions, questions and answers. It all seems less intimidating when someone else is there with you solving the puzzles of life.
If we were provided life with all the answers, existence would be lifeless and boring to say the least. I plan to challenge the big questions, as well as the little; The silly and the serious. As for providing answers, who's to say I'll get them right? Who has the answer key to life after all? The big guy upstairs of course. For now, I am simply taking the test.
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