People break and people fall, but we underestimate the willingness of others to mend us and reach out their hand to help us up again.
When we hear the word "Relationship" we think two people swooning over each other, romantic, and commited. But in all honesty, it's not just that.
A relationship is the way two people connect on specific levels. A relationship is a generalized friendship made to prosper.
It's funny to look back on your life, and wonder what it would be like without the people in it. Would you be who you are today? Would your life really be all that different?
We can sit back and wish someone had/had never come into our lives. But in all reality, every person in our lives shape and form us in one way or another.
Some are the people we:
Go to for a good laugh, a slap on the knee kind of person.
-Tell all our secrets to, regardless how significant it is, a confidant.
-Simply cry to, after a rough day, they're a shoulder to cry on.
-Look up to, admire, the hero type.
-Casually speak with, the occasional small talk and "weren't you there when..."
-Rely on for advice. They're our problem solvers.
-Count on as our other half, from bringing out our wild side to breaking the hard shell we cover ourselves in.
The list is infinite, but more true than the grass is green.
Although to fully understand the value of real friendships/relationships, at some point it's necessary to become familiar with the feelings of lonliness, betrayal and rock bottom.
At times, we will feel alone, lost, confused, overwhelmed, etc. but when someone reaches out, or two strangers cross paths at the right time, hope is restored.
We will come across all sorts of people in our lives, all different, all playing different roles.
No one person keeps the same status in our lives forever. Don't be surprised when someone slowly drifts or even walks right out of your life. That's just how it goes.
We must learn to appreciate what/who we have while we have it/them, for nothing and no one is permanent. Allow others to come and go, for we do the same.
Some accompany us in the best memories we'll hold, some disappoint and break our hearts, some simply seem to appear in the backround, and some make us feel alive again.
Regardless, they all matter.
Metaphorically,
Some are a passing glance in the hallway.
Some, an afternoon chat on the porch.
Some are a casual walk in the park.
Some, a marathon partner.
The ugly truth: some friendships aren't meant to last. Some loves are meant to break. Some people are only meant to appear for a fragment of time. And some people just change. Sometimes it hurts like hell, but it becomes altering when we realize the difference they made in us and the good while it lasted.
People are like clouds, they go from hovering on a sunny day to bombarding during a storm. They come and go; potentially annoying, but at times, just what we need.
When one person leaves us, another one comes. Don't get strung up on one, or many for that matter.
It's not really who is filling the space within us, but the mere fact of filling it.
It's strange and sometimes painful when a specific space is filled for so long and suddenly emptied, but it's a transitional stage.
Think of it like a trash can, (or recycling bin) you can't fill it with the new until you dump the old. There's an inbetween stage of required emptiness, but in time, fills back up.
Our friends are some of the most valuable people. They understand our abstract ways of thinking and the silly things we do. Remember all the times you've thanked your lucky stars for them. Don't forget to be that great friend in return. Without our them life would be far more difficult to handle.
Continue to love your family. Blood is the closest relation you'll ever have to someone. When it comes down to it, through our mistakes and foolish decisions/bad attitudes our families love us unconditionally, return to favor and let it show.
Boyfriends/girlfriends share a lot in common on different levels. One tends to bend over backwards for the other, simply out of love and appreciation. Don't take advantage or forget the reasons why you love them. And at all costs, try not to hurt them. Enjoy their company, even if it's for a short time.
People come and go, but our lives keep going. Whoever is meant to be in your life will be right on pace with you and whoever isn't will deviate. Don't stop and wait, Like The Beatles said, "Ob-la-di, ob-la-da, life goes on, Lala how the life goes on"
