I decided to put blogger on the back burner, and conform to tumblr. because everyone told me it was "cooler" and whatever.
What did I learn from tumblr? That no one took the time out of their day to read what I actually had to write. What's the point of that?
I learned that in order to get "likes" and "followers" I just had to post pictures that "said a million words". I'd rather just say a million words.
I like pictures, but I'm not a photographer.
I love writing- I'm an author, I'm a poet. I'm a word connoisseur.
I decided that just because something is popular doesn't mean it's the best/right thing for us.
tumblr may be more "trendy", but I think it's overrated.
Trends are overrated. Other people's opinions are overrated.
Why do we always feel the need to conform and do what society tells us to?
Well let me tell you something,
I say no.
Blogger's back.
12.24.2011
10.17.2011
Entailing: Epiphany
When it comes down to it, all we can do is accept what is. All you can do is smile about what you have and cherish the live that's been given to us.
I've learned that just because one person doesn't want you, doesn't mean no body does.
I've learned that sometimes we end up caring for people who simply don't care back.
I've learned that sometimes it really isn't me, but you.
I've learned that even on the coldest mornings, there can be warmth.
I've learned that in the hardest moments, there are good friends to pick you up.
I've learned that even best friends get in fights, but only the real ones forgive each other.
I've learned that even among the most broken of things, there can be healing.
I've learned that drinking your problems away, just might help for a little while.
I've learned that living paycheck to paycheck is ok, sometimes.
I've learned that very few people put other people's happiness above their own.
I've learned that I can't control my feelings towards someone, and neither can anyone else.
I've learned that as long as you give your everything, you can at least say you tried.
I've learned that there is nothing better than surrounding yourself with good people.
I've learned that I'd rather get around now, than be the 40 year old woman who cheats on her husband.
I've learned that even when the clouds loom, the sun is still there, waiting with patience.
I've learned that if you don't have confidence in yourself, neither will other people.
I've learned that it does matter what people think about you, but it matters more about what you think about yourself.
I've learned that if you take things one day at a time, the hardships in life seems manageable.
I've learned that complimenting other people makes you a happier person.
I've learned that red bull contains bull testosterone, and that's gross.
I've learned that "cover songs" are just like our perspectives in life: you might not like something, til you hear/look at it in a different way.
I've learned that no matter how many cute outfits you buy, or how many new hair cuts you get, the pain doesn't stay away- but it helps.
I've learned that standing up for yourself might make you a bitch- Ok, then I'm a bitch.
I've learned that when someone says, "I just want to be friends", they actually don't.
I've learned that there are a thousand nice ways to say something mean, but I'm not dumb. I get it.
I've learned that no matter what, we have to deal with the things we are given. There is no getting around them, no avoiding them. Just dealing with them. Stop wasting your time complaining about them; take a deep breath, and figure out how to cope.
Open your eyes to the world, and cry for those who are truly suffering- not our own selfish issues.
Life is beautiful- don't drown it in ugly problems.
The sun doesn't stop shining and the world doesn't stop spinning, so we shouldn't stop living.
Cheers; to moving forward.
I've learned that just because one person doesn't want you, doesn't mean no body does.
I've learned that sometimes we end up caring for people who simply don't care back.
I've learned that sometimes it really isn't me, but you.
I've learned that even on the coldest mornings, there can be warmth.
I've learned that in the hardest moments, there are good friends to pick you up.
I've learned that even best friends get in fights, but only the real ones forgive each other.
I've learned that even among the most broken of things, there can be healing.
I've learned that drinking your problems away, just might help for a little while.
I've learned that living paycheck to paycheck is ok, sometimes.
I've learned that very few people put other people's happiness above their own.
I've learned that I can't control my feelings towards someone, and neither can anyone else.
I've learned that as long as you give your everything, you can at least say you tried.
I've learned that there is nothing better than surrounding yourself with good people.
I've learned that I'd rather get around now, than be the 40 year old woman who cheats on her husband.
I've learned that even when the clouds loom, the sun is still there, waiting with patience.
I've learned that if you don't have confidence in yourself, neither will other people.
I've learned that it does matter what people think about you, but it matters more about what you think about yourself.
I've learned that if you take things one day at a time, the hardships in life seems manageable.
I've learned that complimenting other people makes you a happier person.
I've learned that red bull contains bull testosterone, and that's gross.
I've learned that "cover songs" are just like our perspectives in life: you might not like something, til you hear/look at it in a different way.
I've learned that no matter how many cute outfits you buy, or how many new hair cuts you get, the pain doesn't stay away- but it helps.
I've learned that standing up for yourself might make you a bitch- Ok, then I'm a bitch.
I've learned that when someone says, "I just want to be friends", they actually don't.
I've learned that there are a thousand nice ways to say something mean, but I'm not dumb. I get it.
I've learned that no matter what, we have to deal with the things we are given. There is no getting around them, no avoiding them. Just dealing with them. Stop wasting your time complaining about them; take a deep breath, and figure out how to cope.
Open your eyes to the world, and cry for those who are truly suffering- not our own selfish issues.
Life is beautiful- don't drown it in ugly problems.
The sun doesn't stop shining and the world doesn't stop spinning, so we shouldn't stop living.
Cheers; to moving forward.
10.04.2011
Entailing: Live Like We're Dying
I've had a lot of bad days, bad moments, and bad memories. But at the end of the day, I'm pretty sure I've had more great days, great moments, and great memories.
I feel like my life wouldn't be nearly as great if it weren't for the people in my life. Also, I feel like I don't tell them that enough either.
I'd like to take this opportunity to thank all the amazing people I'm surrounded by every day.
When you think back on the best moments of your life, were they spent alone? Or with somebody else?
We all need time to ourselves, and time to recharge and regroup; but we are naturally drawn to other people; in friendship and in love.
Have you really thought about who you'd spend your last living day with? Or who you'd call with your last goodbyes?
Are you constantly making sure those people know you love them? And if not, how can you be so sure you'll get another chance?
We forget how fragile life really is, and that it literally could end at any moment, at any given time.
When we make decisions, we always assume we have more time; more time to apologize, make things right with someone, take back what we've done, or do what we didn't do.
But there's no way to be sure. The only thing we know we have for sure, is right now; and now; and now; etc.
If you love someone, tell them.
If you have dreams, chase them.
If you wrong someone, fix it.
If you want something, go get it.
If you aren't happy, get there.
If you have a good thing, don't throw it away.
If you have an opportunity, take it.
Don't let your life come to an end, and wish you would have lived it any other way.
With your last breath, be able to look back, smiling, and saying, "I wouldn't change a thing."
I feel like my life wouldn't be nearly as great if it weren't for the people in my life. Also, I feel like I don't tell them that enough either.
I'd like to take this opportunity to thank all the amazing people I'm surrounded by every day.
When you think back on the best moments of your life, were they spent alone? Or with somebody else?
We all need time to ourselves, and time to recharge and regroup; but we are naturally drawn to other people; in friendship and in love.
Have you really thought about who you'd spend your last living day with? Or who you'd call with your last goodbyes?
Are you constantly making sure those people know you love them? And if not, how can you be so sure you'll get another chance?
We forget how fragile life really is, and that it literally could end at any moment, at any given time.
When we make decisions, we always assume we have more time; more time to apologize, make things right with someone, take back what we've done, or do what we didn't do.
But there's no way to be sure. The only thing we know we have for sure, is right now; and now; and now; etc.
If you love someone, tell them.
If you have dreams, chase them.
If you wrong someone, fix it.
If you want something, go get it.
If you aren't happy, get there.
If you have a good thing, don't throw it away.
If you have an opportunity, take it.
Don't let your life come to an end, and wish you would have lived it any other way.
With your last breath, be able to look back, smiling, and saying, "I wouldn't change a thing."
10.02.2011
9.13.2011
Entailing: Haters
Rarely, do we ever dislike someone for a good reason.
We criticize people without knowing them, and make assumptions without knowing anything.
We hear a rumor, and pass it along. But when we hear something said about ourselves, we're hurt and confused why someone would ever say something like that.
We are a world of hypocrites- we wonder why someone would say anything about us, without actually knowing us. Yet, we do the exact same thing.
Maybe it's jealousy. Maybe because of intimidation? Maybe because we think it's funny. Maybe it's because we only know one side of a story.
It's been brought to my attention lately on more than one occasion that making fun of someone for the sheer fun of it makes people think they are funny, witty, and cool. That making some body's personal business into public humiliation is the best part of their days.
Pity.
There will always be haters. Always.
Our generation is living in a sad reality:
We will be called "bitches" and "pussies" because we stand up for our friends, and ourselves.
We'll be called "whiners" and "complainers" for having a normal, human, and emotional reaction to betrayal, belittling, lies, hurt, and heartbreak.
We'll be called "whipped" because we put someone else's happiness above our own; because we are capable of selfless, genuine love with one person instead of endless hooking up.
And we'll be called "sluts" for hooking up with one guy who isn't our boyfriend.
We'll be called "alcoholics" if we have one rough night of partying.
We might not get a call or text back because we might not be "hot enough", despite our personality.
People might change their minds about us not because of what we did, but because of what other people said.
People will constantly be judging us, waiting to pounce on anything they can find to start a rumor or joke about us.
People will say things about us, not knowing the truth. But people just as well might say something, knowing the truth, and saying it anyway.
People may or may not defend us, depending on the status quot.
We'll be hated for things we've done, and things we haven't.
People will say just about anything behind our back, but almost nothing to our face.
We'll have friends who use us for parties, rides, money, etc. but not for real friendship.
But no matter what you do, or how hard you try to give no one a reason to hate/dislike you- there will always be someone who does.
Some days it'll tear us down, make us want to give up, and begin to wonder if what people are saying is true.
But the only person who knows you, is you. And when you go to bed at night, and wake up the next morning, you have your own opinion of yourself.
Let people talk, let them spread lies. Let them assume, and let them criticize.
But also, let the hate, motivate. Let it light a fire of its own, but strictly a fire within yourself to grin, bear it, and keep your head held high.
Because in the end, that's all you can really do.
We criticize people without knowing them, and make assumptions without knowing anything.
We hear a rumor, and pass it along. But when we hear something said about ourselves, we're hurt and confused why someone would ever say something like that.
We are a world of hypocrites- we wonder why someone would say anything about us, without actually knowing us. Yet, we do the exact same thing.
Maybe it's jealousy. Maybe because of intimidation? Maybe because we think it's funny. Maybe it's because we only know one side of a story.
It's been brought to my attention lately on more than one occasion that making fun of someone for the sheer fun of it makes people think they are funny, witty, and cool. That making some body's personal business into public humiliation is the best part of their days.
Pity.
There will always be haters. Always.
Our generation is living in a sad reality:
We will be called "bitches" and "pussies" because we stand up for our friends, and ourselves.
We'll be called "whiners" and "complainers" for having a normal, human, and emotional reaction to betrayal, belittling, lies, hurt, and heartbreak.
We'll be called "whipped" because we put someone else's happiness above our own; because we are capable of selfless, genuine love with one person instead of endless hooking up.
And we'll be called "sluts" for hooking up with one guy who isn't our boyfriend.
We'll be called "alcoholics" if we have one rough night of partying.
We might not get a call or text back because we might not be "hot enough", despite our personality.
People might change their minds about us not because of what we did, but because of what other people said.
People will constantly be judging us, waiting to pounce on anything they can find to start a rumor or joke about us.
People will say things about us, not knowing the truth. But people just as well might say something, knowing the truth, and saying it anyway.
People may or may not defend us, depending on the status quot.
We'll be hated for things we've done, and things we haven't.
People will say just about anything behind our back, but almost nothing to our face.
We'll have friends who use us for parties, rides, money, etc. but not for real friendship.
But no matter what you do, or how hard you try to give no one a reason to hate/dislike you- there will always be someone who does.
Some days it'll tear us down, make us want to give up, and begin to wonder if what people are saying is true.
But the only person who knows you, is you. And when you go to bed at night, and wake up the next morning, you have your own opinion of yourself.
Let people talk, let them spread lies. Let them assume, and let them criticize.
But also, let the hate, motivate. Let it light a fire of its own, but strictly a fire within yourself to grin, bear it, and keep your head held high.
Because in the end, that's all you can really do.
9.06.2011
Entailing: Just Because
Just because roses are red, doesn't mean violets are blue.
Just because you hear it, doesn't mean its true.
Just because a room is dark, doesn't mean it's night.
Just because "they did it first", doesn't mean two wrongs make a right.
Just because you're wealthy, doesn't mean you should brag.
Just because you're tired, doesn't mean you should lag.
Just because you cheated and won, doesn't mean you fought fair.
Just because that couple is gay, doesn't mean you should stare.
Just because there's silence, doesn't mean some thing's wrong.
Just because a girl cries, doesn't mean she's not strong.
Just because you defend yourself and others, doesn't mean you're a prude.
Just because I'm a girl, doesn't mean I can't say dude.
Just because you're smart, doesn't mean you're a geek.
Just because you're curious, doesn't mean you should peek.
Just because they aren't always mean, doesn't mean they're always nice.
Just because you don't think you can do better, doesn't mean you shouldn't think twice.
Just because we party all night, doesn't mean we're "living the life".
Just because you're mad at your friend, doesn't mean talk shit; a stab in the back with a knife.
Just because I try to be open minded, doesn't mean I always am.
Just because you want to be famous, doesn't mean it's all wealth and glam.
Just because you think you're popular, doesn't mean everyone likes you.
Just because we like to hold on to old things, doesn't mean it's bad to get something new.
Just because.
Just because.
Just because you hear it, doesn't mean its true.
Just because a room is dark, doesn't mean it's night.
Just because "they did it first", doesn't mean two wrongs make a right.
Just because you're wealthy, doesn't mean you should brag.
Just because you're tired, doesn't mean you should lag.
Just because you cheated and won, doesn't mean you fought fair.
Just because that couple is gay, doesn't mean you should stare.
Just because there's silence, doesn't mean some thing's wrong.
Just because a girl cries, doesn't mean she's not strong.
Just because you defend yourself and others, doesn't mean you're a prude.
Just because I'm a girl, doesn't mean I can't say dude.
Just because you're smart, doesn't mean you're a geek.
Just because you're curious, doesn't mean you should peek.
Just because they aren't always mean, doesn't mean they're always nice.
Just because you don't think you can do better, doesn't mean you shouldn't think twice.
Just because we party all night, doesn't mean we're "living the life".
Just because you're mad at your friend, doesn't mean talk shit; a stab in the back with a knife.
Just because I try to be open minded, doesn't mean I always am.
Just because you want to be famous, doesn't mean it's all wealth and glam.
Just because you think you're popular, doesn't mean everyone likes you.
Just because we like to hold on to old things, doesn't mean it's bad to get something new.
Just because.
Just because.
9.01.2011
Entailing: Strong
Girls and boys are different.
More girls wear their heart on their sleeve than boys. Some guys do, but lets be honest- a girl isn't afraid to tell the world when she's in love, and she sure isn't afraid to let it know when she's heartbroken or wronged.
Not every guy hurts a girl, but every girl has been hurt- which means everything.
When she's been lied to- don't tell her to calm down.
When she's been betrayed- don't tell her to let it go
When she's given you everything, and gotten nothing in return- don't tell her she didn't have to do it.
When she's given you more chances than you deserve- don't abuse it
When she talks to her friends about you because you won't listen to her- don't tell her not to talk to them about things.
When you make fun of her in front of your friends- don't tell her to "take a joke"
When she's crying- don't tell her to stop.
When you think you she won't leave you- think twice.
Girls have a tendency to hold on too long, guys have a tendency to let them go.
Just because a girl has put up with a lot, doesn't mean she'll keep doing it.
When a girl wants to tell you she's had enough and is done- she wants you to give her a reason to stay. But she's scared; scared you won't stop her, scared you'll let her walk away. So she stays.
And then that day comes.
The day where she realizes, she doesn't care whether or not you stop her. The day when she finally believes, herself, what everyone else has been telling her, "You deserve better."
And she stands up; a little stronger, a little prouder.
And all you see, is the fading image of her walking away.
Maybe you care, and maybe you don't.
But one things for sure- with her head held high, she never looks back.
More girls wear their heart on their sleeve than boys. Some guys do, but lets be honest- a girl isn't afraid to tell the world when she's in love, and she sure isn't afraid to let it know when she's heartbroken or wronged.
Not every guy hurts a girl, but every girl has been hurt- which means everything.
When she's been lied to- don't tell her to calm down.
When she's been betrayed- don't tell her to let it go
When she's given you everything, and gotten nothing in return- don't tell her she didn't have to do it.
When she's given you more chances than you deserve- don't abuse it
When she talks to her friends about you because you won't listen to her- don't tell her not to talk to them about things.
When you make fun of her in front of your friends- don't tell her to "take a joke"
When she's crying- don't tell her to stop.
When you think you she won't leave you- think twice.
Girls have a tendency to hold on too long, guys have a tendency to let them go.
Just because a girl has put up with a lot, doesn't mean she'll keep doing it.
When a girl wants to tell you she's had enough and is done- she wants you to give her a reason to stay. But she's scared; scared you won't stop her, scared you'll let her walk away. So she stays.
And then that day comes.
The day where she realizes, she doesn't care whether or not you stop her. The day when she finally believes, herself, what everyone else has been telling her, "You deserve better."
And she stands up; a little stronger, a little prouder.
And all you see, is the fading image of her walking away.
Maybe you care, and maybe you don't.
But one things for sure- with her head held high, she never looks back.
Entailing: The Funny Thing About Love
Once someone realizes what they had, the other person is walking away, leaving a note behind saying "You shouldn't have had to realize it, you should've known all along."
8.05.2011
Entailing: Winter Winds & A Lesson or Two.
Mumford & Sons: Winter Winds
Every song I listen to, I listen to the words. This is the song that evokes the most emotion in me. It flows with relativity and truth about life and love. I would suggest reading the lyrics, and embrace the words.
These days, I've realized that people will do what they want to do, regardless of how you feel. They will tell you what you want to hear, tell you they'll do things, then wont, manipulate you into believing them, and make you feel like you have no right be upset about it.
Human nature means we can tolerate pain, but that doesn't mean we're immune to it.
There will always be people who don't like you, some for good reason, and some with no reason at all; we do the same.
Don't ever tell someone you love them, and treat them otherwise. If you love them, don't ever turn your back on them, or they will turn their back on you.
Be the kind of friend you would want to be friends with.
If you want to be trusted, don't lie.
Don't take advantage of the fact that someone loves you, or would do anything for you.
Don't take more love than you give- that's called being selfish.
Also, don't read this and be angry.
Finally, be happy for someone else. And realize when and if you aren't the thing that makes them happy.
Here are the lyrics- enjoy.
As the winter winds litter London with lonely hearts
Oh the warmth in your eyes swept me into your arms
Was it love or fear of the cold that led us through the night?
For every kiss your beauty trumped my doubt
And my head told my heart
"Let love grow"
But my heart told my head
"This time no
This time no"
We'll be washed and buried one day my girl
And the time we were given will be left for the world
The flesh that lived and loved will be eaten by plague
So let the memories be good for those who stay
And my head told my heart
"Let love grow"
But my heart told my head
"This time no"
Yes, my heart told my head
"This time no
This time no"
Oh the shame that sent me off from the God that I once loved
Was the same that sent me into your arms
Oh and pestilence is won when you are lost and I am gone
And no hope, no hope will overcome
And if your strife strikes at your sleep
Remember spring swaps snow for leaves
You'll be happy and wholesome again
When the city clears and sun ascends
And my head told my heart
"Let love grow"
But my heart told my head
"This time no"
And my head told my heart
"Let love grow"
But my heart told my head
"This time no
This time no"
8.02.2011
Entailing: Curve Balls & Poker Cards
I used to rely on the phrase, "As long as we're happy, that's all that matters."
But I've selfishly been living as, "As long as I'm happy, that's all that matters."
and let me tell ya, karma is a bitch.
When you want something so bad, you'll do almost anything to get it. But when you try to force things, how real is that?
A wise owl, that I also call my mom, told me that you can't change any one's heart, and no matter what that's what they end up following. You either have to stomach the blows, or turn your back on it.
Sometimes in life we get so caught up in what we want, and what people will think, that we forget to look at things on a more cellular level.
Sometimes we let our emotions get the best of us, and sometimes, we have to pretend they don't exist.
The truth is, life and love are complicated- and no one fully understands it.
Life throws us all sorts of curve balls, and deals us all sorts of cards.
But just because a curve ball is hard to hit, doesn't mean you don't swing. And just because we might end up folding, doesn't mean we won't bet.
Rarely is everybody on the same page, some people read quicker, some read slower. And that's how life is. Some people learn and grow up quicker, and for some, it just takes a little more time. But eventually, we all finish the book.
It's hard to make a decision when we're worried we might regret it.
Be understanding, even when you don't understand.
Everything is better as 100%. Give what you do everything you have, give someone everything you are; & pray they do the same.
It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all- even if it doesn't feel like it.
Let change happen, even if you're scared.
It's better to trust everyone than no one.
Don't build walls. The higher you build your walls, the farther you fall.
Don't focus on what you can't have, what you don't have, and what you can't do- but what you can have, do have, and can do.
My mom told me, for every one thing you aren't happy about, think of 10 things you are- Even its 10 breaths, because at least you're living.
Don't worry about trying to be someone, or something. Pursuing something gives your life meaning, but don't think you're life doesn't mean anything if you're not pursuing something.
Life is one big poker game; One round you might lose all your money, one round you might get the worst cards, and one round you might win.
But the beauty of it, each round is somewhat of a new start. Each day is a new round in this endless game; a chance to go about things a little bit differently, hoping the result turns out better than the last.
Just pick up the cards and play, because that's all we can really do.
But I've selfishly been living as, "As long as I'm happy, that's all that matters."
and let me tell ya, karma is a bitch.
When you want something so bad, you'll do almost anything to get it. But when you try to force things, how real is that?
A wise owl, that I also call my mom, told me that you can't change any one's heart, and no matter what that's what they end up following. You either have to stomach the blows, or turn your back on it.
Sometimes in life we get so caught up in what we want, and what people will think, that we forget to look at things on a more cellular level.
Sometimes we let our emotions get the best of us, and sometimes, we have to pretend they don't exist.
The truth is, life and love are complicated- and no one fully understands it.
Life throws us all sorts of curve balls, and deals us all sorts of cards.
But just because a curve ball is hard to hit, doesn't mean you don't swing. And just because we might end up folding, doesn't mean we won't bet.
Rarely is everybody on the same page, some people read quicker, some read slower. And that's how life is. Some people learn and grow up quicker, and for some, it just takes a little more time. But eventually, we all finish the book.
It's hard to make a decision when we're worried we might regret it.
Be understanding, even when you don't understand.
Everything is better as 100%. Give what you do everything you have, give someone everything you are; & pray they do the same.
It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all- even if it doesn't feel like it.
Let change happen, even if you're scared.
It's better to trust everyone than no one.
Don't build walls. The higher you build your walls, the farther you fall.
Don't focus on what you can't have, what you don't have, and what you can't do- but what you can have, do have, and can do.
My mom told me, for every one thing you aren't happy about, think of 10 things you are- Even its 10 breaths, because at least you're living.
Don't worry about trying to be someone, or something. Pursuing something gives your life meaning, but don't think you're life doesn't mean anything if you're not pursuing something.
Life is one big poker game; One round you might lose all your money, one round you might get the worst cards, and one round you might win.
But the beauty of it, each round is somewhat of a new start. Each day is a new round in this endless game; a chance to go about things a little bit differently, hoping the result turns out better than the last.
Just pick up the cards and play, because that's all we can really do.
6.21.2011
Entailing: Forgive, Free, and Fulfill
In our lives, when we've been hurt there's an awful part of us that becomes bitter- and that bitterness is what really keeps us from being happy.
It's natural to become bitter, and to wish that somehow, those people could feel the pain they put you through.
But lets face it, they never will.
When someone has the ability to hurt you, they can almost control you- emotionally wise that is.
So think about this, if someone has the ability to hurt you, and chooses to, why are you letting them?
Pull it together, and control yourself. When you can do that, it's amazing how much better things are.
I hit rock bottom, and now, I'm rapidly climbing back up again.
Surround yourself with the people who picked you up when someone else knocked you down.
Do the things that make you smile in place of the things that made you frown.
Live the way you weren't before.
Everyone stresses so much about relying on someone else, and in turn- it happens. With relationships, and friendships. But at the end of the day you're alone; your own opinions, your own influence, your own consequences.
So in the end, if we're left with ourselves- why do we rely so much on the influence, approval, and reliability of someone else?
Don't get me wrong, relying on people can be some of the best things out there. But it's kind of like the difference between a three legged chair, and a three legged dog.
Imagine that the fourth leg of a chair and of a dog represents someone/something in your life.
The three legged chair falls over when they lose one leg, but the three legged dog- he can still stand his own; The chair needs its fourth leg, where as the dog just prefers it.
I think we should all be like the three legged dog.
People always tell us to "forgive and forget"- well that's one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. How often do we really forget about something?
If someone hurts us, they obviously meant/mean something, thus making them impossible to forget.
I think it's unhealthy to forget things. I'm in no way saying dwell on it, but use it as fuel to change the way you look that something.
I think we should think more in the terms of, "Forgive, free, and fulfill"
There is no good advice that anyone can give to someone who's in that place, because if you've been there, no matter what anyone says- it doesn't help.
It's not that you wake up one morning, all better again. It's a time frame of healing.
However long it takes you to get to just having a good day- just know you'll get there. Once you do, you'll wonder how you ever were having such a bad day.
We live out lives one way for so long, we don't know how to live it any other way- but with a little transitioning, and a little push- you'll say to yourself, "Wow, I can't believe I was living like that for so long."
When you feel no sort of confident, there will be someone who makes you feel worth while again.
When you feel like nothing, there will be someone who makes you feel like everything again.
When you feel hopeless, there will be someone who makes you feel hopeful again.
When you feel like you're dying inside, there will be someone who makes you feel alive again.
When you feel sad, there will be someone who will make you happy again.
That person is you. When it comes down it, you rescue yourself. Sure, other people help you along the way, but like I said before, at the end of the night, you decide for yourself.
No matter how much you tell an insecure person they are pretty, they won't believe it. Only they can make themselves believe it. Get it?
At the end of the night, you decide whether or not you mean something to the world. Not the magazines and media, not the boy/girl who likes you, not your friends- just you.
It's pretty easy to decide who we are, and be confident in who we are. But where we most struggle with, is when people try to tell us what we aren't.
Not pretty? Not tall? Not skinny? Not blue-eyed? Not in-style? Not tough enough? Not sensitive enough? Well guess what we can say to all those people? Take a look in the f*cking mirror, and tell me that again.
Life is a gift. And despite the negative connotation on Indian giving- be an Indian giver of life. Give yourself the gift of life, and pass it on.
Borrow a dollar, & lend a dollar.
Get hugs, & give hugs.
Cry on a shoulder, & be the shoulder.
Answer a call, & make a call.
Smile back, & smile at.
Be loved, & love.
Be the passenger, & be the driver.
Be helped, & help.
Don't always be the giver, but certainly don't always be the taker. Create equilibrium in your life.
There will always be people hurting us, and we'll always hurt someone. But we can't dwell on it for too long- there's way too much life to live.
Don't feel like you need to forget something happened, or forget someone.
Just forgive them, free yourself, and live fully.
Once we can do that, the sun really does seem to shine a little bit brighter..
It's natural to become bitter, and to wish that somehow, those people could feel the pain they put you through.
But lets face it, they never will.
When someone has the ability to hurt you, they can almost control you- emotionally wise that is.
So think about this, if someone has the ability to hurt you, and chooses to, why are you letting them?
Pull it together, and control yourself. When you can do that, it's amazing how much better things are.
I hit rock bottom, and now, I'm rapidly climbing back up again.
Surround yourself with the people who picked you up when someone else knocked you down.
Do the things that make you smile in place of the things that made you frown.
Live the way you weren't before.
Everyone stresses so much about relying on someone else, and in turn- it happens. With relationships, and friendships. But at the end of the day you're alone; your own opinions, your own influence, your own consequences.
So in the end, if we're left with ourselves- why do we rely so much on the influence, approval, and reliability of someone else?
Don't get me wrong, relying on people can be some of the best things out there. But it's kind of like the difference between a three legged chair, and a three legged dog.
Imagine that the fourth leg of a chair and of a dog represents someone/something in your life.
The three legged chair falls over when they lose one leg, but the three legged dog- he can still stand his own; The chair needs its fourth leg, where as the dog just prefers it.
I think we should all be like the three legged dog.
People always tell us to "forgive and forget"- well that's one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. How often do we really forget about something?
If someone hurts us, they obviously meant/mean something, thus making them impossible to forget.
I think it's unhealthy to forget things. I'm in no way saying dwell on it, but use it as fuel to change the way you look that something.
I think we should think more in the terms of, "Forgive, free, and fulfill"
Step 1: Forgive: Forgive whoever hurt you. But actually do it. Don't just say, "Ok, I forgive you." or, "I'm over it, lets leave it in the past." You should never forgive someone unless you actually can, it helps no one if you can't really forgive them.
By not forgiving someone, the person it's really hurting most is yourself. Which leads to the next step.
Step 2: Free: Holding a grudge hurts no one but yourself. By forgiving someone, you free yourself of the weight on yours shoulders, and the burdens on your heart.
Once you can free yourself from the anger and bitterness towards someone else, you can finally get to the final step.
Step 3: Fulfill: Basically, live your life to the fullest; hurt free, guilt free, and free spirited.I firmly believe that time heals all things. And I also believe that there are places in your life where you literally don't think things can get any better, and when someone tells you time heals all things, you saying to yourself, "Well why the hell won't time go any faster?"
There is no good advice that anyone can give to someone who's in that place, because if you've been there, no matter what anyone says- it doesn't help.
It's not that you wake up one morning, all better again. It's a time frame of healing.
- A bad day
- A bad day with a few good moments
- A bad day with a few good hours
- A good day with a few bad hours
- A good day with a few bad moments
- A good day
However long it takes you to get to just having a good day- just know you'll get there. Once you do, you'll wonder how you ever were having such a bad day.
We live out lives one way for so long, we don't know how to live it any other way- but with a little transitioning, and a little push- you'll say to yourself, "Wow, I can't believe I was living like that for so long."
When you feel no sort of confident, there will be someone who makes you feel worth while again.
When you feel like nothing, there will be someone who makes you feel like everything again.
When you feel hopeless, there will be someone who makes you feel hopeful again.
When you feel like you're dying inside, there will be someone who makes you feel alive again.
When you feel sad, there will be someone who will make you happy again.
That person is you. When it comes down it, you rescue yourself. Sure, other people help you along the way, but like I said before, at the end of the night, you decide for yourself.
No matter how much you tell an insecure person they are pretty, they won't believe it. Only they can make themselves believe it. Get it?
At the end of the night, you decide whether or not you mean something to the world. Not the magazines and media, not the boy/girl who likes you, not your friends- just you.
It's pretty easy to decide who we are, and be confident in who we are. But where we most struggle with, is when people try to tell us what we aren't.
Not pretty? Not tall? Not skinny? Not blue-eyed? Not in-style? Not tough enough? Not sensitive enough? Well guess what we can say to all those people? Take a look in the f*cking mirror, and tell me that again.
Life is a gift. And despite the negative connotation on Indian giving- be an Indian giver of life. Give yourself the gift of life, and pass it on.
Borrow a dollar, & lend a dollar.
Get hugs, & give hugs.
Cry on a shoulder, & be the shoulder.
Answer a call, & make a call.
Smile back, & smile at.
Be loved, & love.
Be the passenger, & be the driver.
Be helped, & help.
Don't always be the giver, but certainly don't always be the taker. Create equilibrium in your life.
There will always be people hurting us, and we'll always hurt someone. But we can't dwell on it for too long- there's way too much life to live.
Don't feel like you need to forget something happened, or forget someone.
Just forgive them, free yourself, and live fully.
Once we can do that, the sun really does seem to shine a little bit brighter..
6.10.2011
Entailing: Harsh Reality
Life can be f*cking great sometimes.
And sometimes. It's not.
Just a heads up:
My blogs aren't meant to hurt anyone.
Rarely is what I write directed at one person.
The things I write about come from experience- experiences other people have been, or are, going through also.
If you have such a strong opinion against what I'm saying- start your own blog.
If what I say bugs you- don't read it.
My apology:
Years ago, I felt invisible, and like no matter what I did, it didn't matter. Slowly, with a lot of work- things were ok again. But it's left a lot of scars- and affected how I am in relationships, and with other people.
When I'm ignored, or when someone doesn't want to talk to me, I feel like I did something wrong.
So if I'm controlling, I'm sorry.
I hate when people are rude and make fun of other people, especially in public.
So if I'm bitchy, I'm sorry.
I have a hard time trusting people. I will ask the same questions over and over, just to make sure.
So if I'm annoying, I'm sorry.
I over think- but it seems like a lot of the time I'm right.
So what I say seems irrelevant/crazy, I'm sorry.
Once someone plays a big role in my life I want them to stay, and it makes it harder when they don't want to.
So if I'm pushy, I'm sorry.
I go above and beyond for the people I care about. I don't demand anything in return, even if it seems like it.
So if I seem expecting, I'm sorry.
When someone doesn't want to be around me anymore, I want to know every single reason why, even if it doesn't seem like they should matter.
So if I nag, I'm sorry.
When I'm hurt, I like to talk about it, because if I don't it builds up- and I like hearing other people's opinions and advice.
So if I whine, I'm sorry.
I don't think that sarcasm is always necessary. I believe that there's a time when you should be considerate of what you're saying.
So if seem butt hurt, I'm sorry.
I'm tend to think about the things I could have, and should have done differently, and I want to that person about it- even if they don't want to hear it.
So if I annoy you, I'm sorry.
I have a hard time with pain. And I cling to those who are, or were, there for me- even if they are the ones hurting me.
So if I don't give you space, I'm sorry.
I hate opening up to new people, because it's one more person that can hurt you. So when I open up to someone- they become important to me.
So if it seems like I'm clingy, I'm sorry.
I have insecurities like most, but overall, I'm pretty confident in who I am. I'm just not always confident that other people like me.
So if I seem insecure, I'm sorry.
I believe things easily, especially the things I want to hear. And then when I find out the truth, it hurts me.
So if seem sensitive, I'm sorry.
I don't believe that love or friendship can disappear just like that.
So if I don't stop trying, I'm sorry.
I try to take criticism well, and listen to what people are saying, and work on it- but I hate being the only person trying to make things work.
So if I seem stuck in my ways, I'm sorry.
I get worried when people start to become distant from me- and become closer with someone else. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough.
So if I seem jealous, I'm sorry.
I prefer to put things in the past, but some things takes time, and brokenness doesn't heal over night.
So if it seem like I'm holding a grudge, I'm sorry.
I don't always realize if what I'm saying has a strong affect on someone.
So if I seem inconsiderate, I'm sorry.
The harsh reality:
The people you thought will always be there for you, might not be.
The people who told you they'd always love you, probably won't.
Not everyone will like you.
Some people hate us for no reason.
Don't make someone your life, because more than likely they won't make you theirs.
No matter how much you do for someone, at the end of the day- they will still have their own opinion about you.
The harder you try to keep someone in your life, the more you push them away.
Life is just as predictable as the weather; it's not.
We won't always see eye-to-eye with someone, and that can make or break things.
People change, and not always for the better. Maybe better for them, but not for you.
When you don't think it can get worse, it can. But it can also get better.
Good memories aren't enough to keep someone around, but bad ones are enough to make them leave.
No matter how many cute outfits you buy or how many pounds you lose, you can't make someone love you.
No matter how much money you make, it won't buy you happiness.
Your attitude is a big part in things, but sometimes no matter how hard you try, things are still hard.
A lighter reality:
Hitting rock bottom means you have no where to go but up.
Feeling like you have no one means you can go meet anyone.
Feeling like you are nothing means you have a lot of room for improvement.
Feeling like you have nothing means you can do anything, and not leave anything behind to regret leaving.
Feeling like you're living in complete darkness means it will only take a small light to brighten things.
Even if it feels like time is moving slowly, it means you're slowly improving.
And that my friends, is reality.
And sometimes. It's not.
Just a heads up:
My blogs aren't meant to hurt anyone.
Rarely is what I write directed at one person.
The things I write about come from experience- experiences other people have been, or are, going through also.
If you have such a strong opinion against what I'm saying- start your own blog.
If what I say bugs you- don't read it.
My apology:
Years ago, I felt invisible, and like no matter what I did, it didn't matter. Slowly, with a lot of work- things were ok again. But it's left a lot of scars- and affected how I am in relationships, and with other people.
When I'm ignored, or when someone doesn't want to talk to me, I feel like I did something wrong.
So if I'm controlling, I'm sorry.
I hate when people are rude and make fun of other people, especially in public.
So if I'm bitchy, I'm sorry.
I have a hard time trusting people. I will ask the same questions over and over, just to make sure.
So if I'm annoying, I'm sorry.
I over think- but it seems like a lot of the time I'm right.
So what I say seems irrelevant/crazy, I'm sorry.
Once someone plays a big role in my life I want them to stay, and it makes it harder when they don't want to.
So if I'm pushy, I'm sorry.
I go above and beyond for the people I care about. I don't demand anything in return, even if it seems like it.
So if I seem expecting, I'm sorry.
When someone doesn't want to be around me anymore, I want to know every single reason why, even if it doesn't seem like they should matter.
So if I nag, I'm sorry.
When I'm hurt, I like to talk about it, because if I don't it builds up- and I like hearing other people's opinions and advice.
So if I whine, I'm sorry.
I don't think that sarcasm is always necessary. I believe that there's a time when you should be considerate of what you're saying.
So if seem butt hurt, I'm sorry.
I'm tend to think about the things I could have, and should have done differently, and I want to that person about it- even if they don't want to hear it.
So if I annoy you, I'm sorry.
I have a hard time with pain. And I cling to those who are, or were, there for me- even if they are the ones hurting me.
So if I don't give you space, I'm sorry.
I hate opening up to new people, because it's one more person that can hurt you. So when I open up to someone- they become important to me.
So if it seems like I'm clingy, I'm sorry.
I have insecurities like most, but overall, I'm pretty confident in who I am. I'm just not always confident that other people like me.
So if I seem insecure, I'm sorry.
I believe things easily, especially the things I want to hear. And then when I find out the truth, it hurts me.
So if seem sensitive, I'm sorry.
I don't believe that love or friendship can disappear just like that.
So if I don't stop trying, I'm sorry.
I try to take criticism well, and listen to what people are saying, and work on it- but I hate being the only person trying to make things work.
So if I seem stuck in my ways, I'm sorry.
I get worried when people start to become distant from me- and become closer with someone else. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough.
So if I seem jealous, I'm sorry.
I prefer to put things in the past, but some things takes time, and brokenness doesn't heal over night.
So if it seem like I'm holding a grudge, I'm sorry.
I don't always realize if what I'm saying has a strong affect on someone.
So if I seem inconsiderate, I'm sorry.
The harsh reality:
The people you thought will always be there for you, might not be.
The people who told you they'd always love you, probably won't.
Not everyone will like you.
Some people hate us for no reason.
Don't make someone your life, because more than likely they won't make you theirs.
No matter how much you do for someone, at the end of the day- they will still have their own opinion about you.
The harder you try to keep someone in your life, the more you push them away.
Life is just as predictable as the weather; it's not.
We won't always see eye-to-eye with someone, and that can make or break things.
People change, and not always for the better. Maybe better for them, but not for you.
When you don't think it can get worse, it can. But it can also get better.
Good memories aren't enough to keep someone around, but bad ones are enough to make them leave.
No matter how many cute outfits you buy or how many pounds you lose, you can't make someone love you.
No matter how much money you make, it won't buy you happiness.
Your attitude is a big part in things, but sometimes no matter how hard you try, things are still hard.
A lighter reality:
Hitting rock bottom means you have no where to go but up.
Feeling like you have no one means you can go meet anyone.
Feeling like you are nothing means you have a lot of room for improvement.
Feeling like you have nothing means you can do anything, and not leave anything behind to regret leaving.
Feeling like you're living in complete darkness means it will only take a small light to brighten things.
Even if it feels like time is moving slowly, it means you're slowly improving.
And that my friends, is reality.
6.05.2011
Entailing: The Hardest Things
There is nothing perfect and easy about life.
The hardest things:
But that's life.
The hardest things:
- School
- Studying for a test that you sincerely don't understand a word of
- Getting along with a teacher you hate
- Getting through Mondays, and all the other days
- Being on time- it really is kind of hard.
- Paying attention for the entire class period
- Bringing text books- we either lose them, or forget we even have one.
- The last month of school- impossible
- Getting through school without your stomach growling
- Food
- Roasting the perfect marshmallow
- Making toast without burning it
- No over cooking something in the microwave
- Ever tried cooking more than one thing on the stove? Chaos!
- Getting the last drop of soda in a can or water in a bottle
- Not eating when you're bored
- Eating a giant sandwich without it falling apart
- Melting ALL the cheese on nachos, without burning some of it.
- Sleeping
- I applaud anyone who doesn't snooze their alarm
- Getting enough sleep to where you actually feel rested
- Remembering your dreams
- Getting out of bed when it's cold
- Getting comfortable when it's hot
- Going to sleep earlier than midnight
- Waking up in the middle of the night, and not being able to fall back asleep
- Trying to fall asleep when you've got a million things on your mind.
- Relationships
- Loving someone who doesn't love you back
- Trying not to be jealous
- When you're not ok, and they're perfectly fine
- Saying something you immediately regret
- Looking back, and wishing you would have done things different
- Healing a broken heart
- Maintaining your own lives in addition to being a part of each others
- When you can't say how you really feel because it will start a fight
- Driving
- Driving the speed limit when you're late
- Letting the car that cut you off into your lane
- Not flipping that person off
- Getting the perfect distance away from the curb
- Not screaming when that jerk just snaked your parking spot
- Using your blinkers when you're tired- it seems so much harder that way.
- Keeping your car clean for more than a day
- Driving perfectly when a cop is driving behind you
- Cleaning
- Folding clean clothes and putting them away right away
- Keeping your room perfectly clean for 24 hours- I dare you.
- Trying to get out of chores
- Not shoving everything under your bed
- Vacuuming- it happens once in a blue moon.
- A place for everything? Ya right.
- Trying to understand why your mom wants everything cleaned when it's not dirty?
- Cleaning something you didn't make a mess of with a good attitude
- Fashion
- Having a wardrobe full of clothes, and still feeling like you have nothing to wear
- Getting ready when you're sick, tired, or sad
- Getting ready, and not seeing the person you want to see you
- Not getting ready, and seeing that same person.
- Ironing- I swear I just iron in more wrinkles..
- Feeling like you look good when you feel like a fat ass
- Trying to fit into a pair of jeans that's too small
- Wearing something again once you know someone else has it
- Sticky Hands
- Painting your nails without getting nail polish on your fingers
- Gluing something without getting it all over your hands
- Try to spray paint without getting it on your hands- really
- Peeling an orange without getting sh*t all over your fingers
- Eating fruit without getting sticky fingers
- Not getting that gross muggy feeling on your hands from lotion
- Keeping your hands clean while carving a pumpkin
- Cheeto fingers and ice cream sandwich fingers- enough said
- Pets
- Not getting hair- everywhere
- Picking up the gnarliest smelling poops
- Remembering to feed them when your mom asked you to- 7 hours ago
- Breathing when they fart
- Staying mad at them when they look at you with "those eyes"
- Not laughing when your dog humps your friends
- Trying not to find humor in blowing in their faces, stretching their eyes into Asian eyes, and dressing them up
- Forgetting them once they pass away
But that's life.
5.28.2011
Entailing: Then & Now
It's funny to look back on your life a year ago, and compare it to where you are now.
The time flies, but so much happens.
For some, it's been a year of happiness- for others, a struggle.
Either way, the time has gone by, and we've made it to this point; still breathing, still alive.
Do I remember what I was doing last year on May 28, 2010? Fat chance.
On May 28, 2012 will I remember what I'm doing right now? It's highly unlikely.
How often do we actually remember exactly what we were doing, and even more-so, what we were thinking?
I don't know about you readers, but sometimes I wonder if I'll ever remember exactly what I was thinking at this exact moment. I like to pretend I can, but come on.. I can't. haha.
Although, I've come to realize- We remember the most when we felt the most. Whether it's happiness, or sorrow, and oddly, a few sporadic things here and there.
This time last year, I was getting ready to graduate, committed to Northwest College in little ol' Powell, Wyoming for soccer, getting over a boy, and ready to get out of this place.
Where am I now?
I'm back in Salt Lake City, sitting in the room I deserted for 5 months, signing up for my sophomore year classes at the University of Utah, and yes, getting over another boy.
This time last year, I never would have thought I'd be back home, doing what I'm doing now.
When I thought about that, it sort of upset me.. This isn't what I planned for.
But then.. I realized, this time next year I could be doing something completely different, just like last year to now; and the fact that I have absolutely no idea what that is, is exciting- and to be honest, somewhat relieving.
I've realized I always try to make a plan for things, because if I plan, I know exactly what's going to happen and what to expect, therefore I can avoid disappointment.
Today, I came to the sudden realization- nothing I had planned on happening, happened- and the things I hadn't planned on, did. So frankly, why plan?
The things we want to do in life shouldn't be written on a piece of paper with a pen- they should be written on a white board- no scratching, no guilt; we can just change it real quick, and if we change our minds 5 minutes later, we don't have to say, "Ahhh.. but I just wrote that!".
Because after all, the things we want are always changing, right?
Oh, the things that can happen in a year. It's not the same as the things that can happen in a day, or even a month!
In a year, you can fall in love, and fall out of love.
you can't fall in and out of love in a day
Or even a month- not real love.
Psychologists did a study that said a crush lasts a maximum of 4 months- if it exceeds that, it's love.
In a day, you can forget to brush your teeth.
I hope and pray someone won't forget to brush their teeth for a month
and heaven forbid a year.
In a month, every leaf can change colors.
in a day? maybe one or two.
in a year, they fall off, bloom, and change colors.
In a year, you can be fine, break a bone, and be perfectly fine again.
in a day, you break it.
in a month, it's only healing.
In a month, everyday happens once.
in a day, it's only today!
and in a year, they happen 12 times!
In a day, it could be cloudy all day.
But it's very unlikely for it to be cloudy all month
and all year.
See what I mean? There is just something about a year from then and now that seems so significant.
I bet you couldn't count how many people you met in the last year.
I bet you couldn't count how many showers you took in the last year.
I bet you couldn't count how many homework assignments you procrastinated.
I bet you couldn't count how many times you said 'I love you'.
I bet you couldn't count how many times you hit 'snooze' on your alarm.
I bet you couldn't count how many times you ate a banana.
I bet you couldn't.
And that's a good thing- because if you walked around tallying everything- you'd be wasting your time tracking things instead of doing them.
The hardest part, is looking back, and wishing some of the things were still the same.
But you have to look at it this way, if you were fine before they happened, you have the ability to be ok when they end.
Some people will graduate high school this year, sad that it's over- and in a year, wonder why it ever even mattered in the first place.
While others will have already graduated a year back, not caring when it happened- and wishing they could go back.
Some people will graduate from college this year because they wanted to start their career- and in a year, from their cubicle, wish they would've enjoyed it while they could have.
While others will drop out of school and party their life away this year- and in a year, wishing they would've stuck with it.
Some people will get married this year- and in a year, get a divorce.
While others got a divorce last year- and finally met the real love of their life, or realized, the person they had, is actually the person they want.
Time keeps moving along, even if we want it to stop.
The clock keeps ticking, even if we want it to slow down.
So don't stop, and don't slow down.
Because in a year that will be now, and today will just be another then.
The time flies, but so much happens.
For some, it's been a year of happiness- for others, a struggle.
Either way, the time has gone by, and we've made it to this point; still breathing, still alive.
Do I remember what I was doing last year on May 28, 2010? Fat chance.
On May 28, 2012 will I remember what I'm doing right now? It's highly unlikely.
How often do we actually remember exactly what we were doing, and even more-so, what we were thinking?
I don't know about you readers, but sometimes I wonder if I'll ever remember exactly what I was thinking at this exact moment. I like to pretend I can, but come on.. I can't. haha.
Although, I've come to realize- We remember the most when we felt the most. Whether it's happiness, or sorrow, and oddly, a few sporadic things here and there.
This time last year, I was getting ready to graduate, committed to Northwest College in little ol' Powell, Wyoming for soccer, getting over a boy, and ready to get out of this place.
Where am I now?
I'm back in Salt Lake City, sitting in the room I deserted for 5 months, signing up for my sophomore year classes at the University of Utah, and yes, getting over another boy.
This time last year, I never would have thought I'd be back home, doing what I'm doing now.
When I thought about that, it sort of upset me.. This isn't what I planned for.
But then.. I realized, this time next year I could be doing something completely different, just like last year to now; and the fact that I have absolutely no idea what that is, is exciting- and to be honest, somewhat relieving.
I've realized I always try to make a plan for things, because if I plan, I know exactly what's going to happen and what to expect, therefore I can avoid disappointment.
Today, I came to the sudden realization- nothing I had planned on happening, happened- and the things I hadn't planned on, did. So frankly, why plan?
The things we want to do in life shouldn't be written on a piece of paper with a pen- they should be written on a white board- no scratching, no guilt; we can just change it real quick, and if we change our minds 5 minutes later, we don't have to say, "Ahhh.. but I just wrote that!".
Because after all, the things we want are always changing, right?
Oh, the things that can happen in a year. It's not the same as the things that can happen in a day, or even a month!
In a year, you can fall in love, and fall out of love.
you can't fall in and out of love in a day
Or even a month- not real love.
Psychologists did a study that said a crush lasts a maximum of 4 months- if it exceeds that, it's love.
In a day, you can forget to brush your teeth.
I hope and pray someone won't forget to brush their teeth for a month
and heaven forbid a year.
In a month, every leaf can change colors.
in a day? maybe one or two.
in a year, they fall off, bloom, and change colors.
In a year, you can be fine, break a bone, and be perfectly fine again.
in a day, you break it.
in a month, it's only healing.
In a month, everyday happens once.
in a day, it's only today!
and in a year, they happen 12 times!
In a day, it could be cloudy all day.
But it's very unlikely for it to be cloudy all month
and all year.
See what I mean? There is just something about a year from then and now that seems so significant.
I bet you couldn't count how many people you met in the last year.
I bet you couldn't count how many showers you took in the last year.
I bet you couldn't count how many homework assignments you procrastinated.
I bet you couldn't count how many times you said 'I love you'.
I bet you couldn't count how many times you hit 'snooze' on your alarm.
I bet you couldn't count how many times you ate a banana.
I bet you couldn't.
And that's a good thing- because if you walked around tallying everything- you'd be wasting your time tracking things instead of doing them.
The hardest part, is looking back, and wishing some of the things were still the same.
But you have to look at it this way, if you were fine before they happened, you have the ability to be ok when they end.
Some people will graduate high school this year, sad that it's over- and in a year, wonder why it ever even mattered in the first place.
While others will have already graduated a year back, not caring when it happened- and wishing they could go back.
Some people will graduate from college this year because they wanted to start their career- and in a year, from their cubicle, wish they would've enjoyed it while they could have.
While others will drop out of school and party their life away this year- and in a year, wishing they would've stuck with it.
Some people will get married this year- and in a year, get a divorce.
While others got a divorce last year- and finally met the real love of their life, or realized, the person they had, is actually the person they want.
Time keeps moving along, even if we want it to stop.
The clock keeps ticking, even if we want it to slow down.
So don't stop, and don't slow down.
Because in a year that will be now, and today will just be another then.
5.24.2011
Entailing: That's Life
Rarely, does it turn out how we want it to.
There are good people, bad people, and a bunch of mediocre people.
Don't let any of them get in the way.
Roll with the punches, don't throw them.
As much as we try, we honestly have no idea whats in store for us.
Let what happens, happen.
Let the sun shine, and the rain fall.
You're only lifestyle should be happiness- not partying.
Surround yourself with the good vibes of good people.
Have a good time with healthy hobbies.
Regret little.
Don't let one person stop you from living your life.
& don't live your life for one person.
It's easier to forgive ourselves and others for what we've done rather than what we haven't.
There's no such thing as too much love.
Give just as much as you take.
Roll down the windows when everyone else has them closed.
Give it all you've got.
We've only got one shot
& that's life.
There are good people, bad people, and a bunch of mediocre people.
Don't let any of them get in the way.
Roll with the punches, don't throw them.
As much as we try, we honestly have no idea whats in store for us.
Let what happens, happen.
Let the sun shine, and the rain fall.
You're only lifestyle should be happiness- not partying.
Surround yourself with the good vibes of good people.
Have a good time with healthy hobbies.
Regret little.
Don't let one person stop you from living your life.
& don't live your life for one person.
It's easier to forgive ourselves and others for what we've done rather than what we haven't.
There's no such thing as too much love.
Give just as much as you take.
Roll down the windows when everyone else has them closed.
Give it all you've got.
We've only got one shot
& that's life.
5.23.2011
Entailing: Never
Manipulating words
convinced her in believable lies.
The pain didn't matter
nor the look in her eyes.
Snatching hands
ripped it all away
He laughed at her,
"You really thought I'd stay?"
He took her life
and took her heart
with words like a knife,
but that's not the best part.
She tried to tell him
but he wouldn't listen.
He ended it all
watching her last tear glisten.
On the floor
he saw the note.
He saw it folded
he saw what she wrote,
"I know you don't love me
and I know it's best,
If I let you go,
and forget the rest.
I could never hurt you
the way you've hurt me.
I couldn't stab back,
why can't you see?
I know down deep
there's good in you.
But I've found it's like dreaming;
I only believe it when I'm asleep.
We'll never understand why
I love you so-
and that's the reason
I must let you go.
You could've told me
there was no forever,
I'm leaving you now,
because I know it's a never."
He dropped the letter
and dropped the knife.
He could've been gentle
and let her live her life.
Unnecessary pain
he inflicted on her.
He decided from it
there was nothing to gain.
He thought he was funny
and thought he was clever.
In the end, he was the one
with nothing but never.
convinced her in believable lies.
The pain didn't matter
nor the look in her eyes.
Snatching hands
ripped it all away
He laughed at her,
"You really thought I'd stay?"
He took her life
and took her heart
with words like a knife,
but that's not the best part.
She tried to tell him
but he wouldn't listen.
He ended it all
watching her last tear glisten.
On the floor
he saw the note.
He saw it folded
he saw what she wrote,
"I know you don't love me
and I know it's best,
If I let you go,
and forget the rest.
I could never hurt you
the way you've hurt me.
I couldn't stab back,
why can't you see?
I know down deep
there's good in you.
But I've found it's like dreaming;
I only believe it when I'm asleep.
We'll never understand why
I love you so-
and that's the reason
I must let you go.
You could've told me
there was no forever,
I'm leaving you now,
because I know it's a never."
He dropped the letter
and dropped the knife.
He could've been gentle
and let her live her life.
Unnecessary pain
he inflicted on her.
He decided from it
there was nothing to gain.
He thought he was funny
and thought he was clever.
In the end, he was the one
with nothing but never.
5.20.2011
Entailing: Understanding Not Understanding
"I don't understand." - We find ourselves saying this all the time.
Part of our misery comes from the distress of trying understand something we don't understand. Think about it- how often do you think yourself silly over something?
There are some things worth thinking about- worth stressing over; some things aren't.
We have to understand there are things we will never understand.
I know that things have to happen, but I don't necessarily know why.
I don't know why some people go their whole lives without finding someone to love, and why some people marry the first person they date and live 50 years of happily ever after.
I don't know why we were created with poisonous characteristics- jealously, greed, anger, spite, vengeance, etc.
I understand that I will never understand these things.
I don't understand why things can change in a split second that change your life forever- but I know that it happens.
I don't know how terrible things turn into good things- but I know that they can.
I don't understand why some people are the luckiest people in the world, and why some have the worst luck in the world- but they do.
I don't know why we can't realize what we have when we have it, and not when we don't- but we don't.
I don't understand how such terrible things happen to countries and cities; floods, tornadoes, hurricanes.- but they do.
I don't know why killing innocent people in another country earns any sort of respect for one's own country- but it does.
I can tear myself apart thinking about these things, or
I can understand that I will never understand these things
and let them go.
I don't understand how the IRS can rip everything away from a family.
I don't understand how a parent can abuse their child.
I don't understand how anybody can cheat on someone they're married to, or in a relationship with.
I don't understand if someone cares about us, why they hurt us. Even more-so, I don't understand why we stick around when they do.
I don't understand how such a material possession such as money can tear a family/marriage apart.
I don't understand why we always want what we can't have.
I must understand, I will never understand.
You may understand some things, you might understand calculus, you might understand pathogenic biology, or how to make a computer- but there will always be things none of us will ever understand.
Why and when society decided to demand perfection instead of natural? I have no idea.
Why some marry for money? It's baffles me.
Why it's so hard to let someone go? I wish I knew.
Why some people can eat a whale and not gain a pound while another eats a cracker and gains five pounds? It's beyond me.
On Stumbleupon.com I came across this image. Such a simple image- yet, a strong impact. I literally sighed with relief when I saw this.
Part of our misery comes from the distress of trying understand something we don't understand. Think about it- how often do you think yourself silly over something?
There are some things worth thinking about- worth stressing over; some things aren't.
We have to understand there are things we will never understand.
- Why good/young people die
- Why we love people who don't love us back
- Why life doesn't always turn out how we want it
- Why people commit suicide
- Why sometimes we cry over nothing
- What came before us? What came before that?
- Why bad things happen to good people
- Why do the people who deserve to get caught, never do? And the ones who don't, do?
- Why love disappears sometimes
- How songs, scents, and pictures can bring back so many memories
- How our hearts and minds can want different things
- How quickly our minds change
- How if we did one thing differently, that our lives could be completely different
- Do we all see the same colors
- Do we all think the same way
I know that things have to happen, but I don't necessarily know why.
I don't know why some people go their whole lives without finding someone to love, and why some people marry the first person they date and live 50 years of happily ever after.
I don't know why we were created with poisonous characteristics- jealously, greed, anger, spite, vengeance, etc.
I understand that I will never understand these things.
I don't understand why things can change in a split second that change your life forever- but I know that it happens.
I don't know how terrible things turn into good things- but I know that they can.
I don't understand why some people are the luckiest people in the world, and why some have the worst luck in the world- but they do.
I don't know why we can't realize what we have when we have it, and not when we don't- but we don't.
I don't understand how such terrible things happen to countries and cities; floods, tornadoes, hurricanes.- but they do.
I don't know why killing innocent people in another country earns any sort of respect for one's own country- but it does.
I can tear myself apart thinking about these things, or
I can understand that I will never understand these things
and let them go.
I don't understand how the IRS can rip everything away from a family.
I don't understand how a parent can abuse their child.
I don't understand how anybody can cheat on someone they're married to, or in a relationship with.
I don't understand if someone cares about us, why they hurt us. Even more-so, I don't understand why we stick around when they do.
I don't understand how such a material possession such as money can tear a family/marriage apart.
I don't understand why we always want what we can't have.
I must understand, I will never understand.
You may understand some things, you might understand calculus, you might understand pathogenic biology, or how to make a computer- but there will always be things none of us will ever understand.
Why and when society decided to demand perfection instead of natural? I have no idea.
Why some marry for money? It's baffles me.
Why it's so hard to let someone go? I wish I knew.
Why some people can eat a whale and not gain a pound while another eats a cracker and gains five pounds? It's beyond me.
On Stumbleupon.com I came across this image. Such a simple image- yet, a strong impact. I literally sighed with relief when I saw this.
We simply have to understand, we simply don't understand.
Once you do, it's a breath of fresh air.
5.11.2011
Entailing: What is?
There a million different perspectives on life.
Are we suppose to go along with one another, or define our own?
What is life? What is love? What is friendship? What is pain? What is religion? Who am I?
So many questions- do we discover the answers, or define our own?
The hard part is, there are so many moments you think you've got it all figured out. But that literally lasts a moment; then it's back to, "What the hell are we doing here?", "What the hell does it (it being anything) mean?"
The beauty of life- you have the choice to create your own meanings, or submit yourself to the ideas of others.
What is life?
- A series of unfortunate events. Just kidding. I honestly don't know- and maybe that's just what life is; life is lived simply to be figured out.
- Maybe on your death bed, as you slowly slip away, maybe there's one last fresh breath of air- and you just know?
- If we knew exactly why we were here, would life even be that great? Isn't not knowing and trying to figure it out half the fun?
- Someone once told me, "I don't know what comes after life, but I figure I might as well live it up while I've got the chance."- I think he's right.
- If this is all we have, why do so many hold back?
What is love?
- The best and worst thing in the entire world; creates the highest highs and the lowest lows.
- Love, I think, is when nothing and no one else matters.
- It happens when you least expect it, and doesn't when you want it most.
- It can't be forced.
- Love is 1 Corinthians 13:4–8
- It's hard, and takes work, but in the end: the plus is worth the minus.
- Love challenges you to do the right thing.
- Love conquers pride.
What is friendship?
- A fight that lasts 5 minutes then is forgotten about.
- No matter what- you're there for someone else.
- The most reliable and solid foundation for any relationship.
- There is 100% honesty in real/true friendships
- Consideration is in full effect at all times (well most of the time)
- Endless laughs.
- When no one else encourages you- a real friend does.
What is pain?
- A physical or emotional strain.
- Ranges from broken bones to broken hearts.
- A tough fall on the court, or a tough fall for a person.
- Extensive disappointment.
- Pain fuels from loss; losing a big game, losing a limb, or losing a friend/family member.
- Wounds; flesh wounds or wounded pride.
- Feeling invisible or forgettable.
- Feeling unloved, or even worse- unlovable.
- Can last seconds, days, months, or even a lifetime.
- Perpetuating pain, a pain very few understand, can cause someone to take their own life.
What is religion?
- Something to believe in.
- To some, a life saver; for others, a reason to live.
- Reassurance, or a potential answer, to the meaning of life.
- A potential answer to, "How did we get here?" and, "What happens after we die?".
- Theories to the unexplainable; theories science cannot prove.
- Proof of miracles.
- The basis for "everything happens for a reason".
- Something people turn to in their time of need; to seek help.
- To encourage positive morals and lifestyles and exterminate selfish living.
Who am I?
- You are who you decide you want to be.
- At the end of the day who you are is up to you, not anyone else.
- What are you trying to achieve? And why?
- An individual and an influence.
- Strong and able.
- A difference in someone else's life.
- Presented with endless opportunities; its not whether or not you have the ability, it's whether or not you're willing to put in the work to get there.
What is yesterday, today, and tomorrow?
- It's the past, present, and future.
- Today, reflect on what you learned from yesterday, and apply it to tomorrow.
It's scary to think this is literally the only life we have. Seldom do we realize this is it, and every minute it draws closer to the end.
People always ask us, "If you knew you were dying, would you live differently?" - well, lets be honest, everyday we get closer to dying. I don't say this to be negative nor morbid. But it's true isn't it? Our days are number- regardless if it's 10 million , 10 thousand, or 10.
Basically, we should live like we're dying everyday.. because we are.
In Awake My Soul by Mumford and SonsWhere you invest your love, you invest your life." - How true. We should spend our lives being loved, not trying to convince someone to love us.
In Winter Winds also by Mumford and Sons, they say, "Let the memories be good for those who stay." I don't think this needs much explanation. If someone stays in your life, whether it's a friend, a boy/girl, or a family member- let the memories be good. If someone decides not to stay- what a shame.
What gives your life meaning? What and who can you not live without? When we look back on our lives thus far, it's not what we've done that we regret, its what we didn't do. Take your chances, look over the edge, jump in- because after all, it's all we've got.
Who are you? What is life to you? Is it finding love, fighting pain, faithful religion, or fruitful friendships?
Do you define life? Or does life define you?
Are we suppose to go along with one another, or define our own?
What is life? What is love? What is friendship? What is pain? What is religion? Who am I?
So many questions- do we discover the answers, or define our own?
The hard part is, there are so many moments you think you've got it all figured out. But that literally lasts a moment; then it's back to, "What the hell are we doing here?", "What the hell does it (it being anything) mean?"
The beauty of life- you have the choice to create your own meanings, or submit yourself to the ideas of others.
What is life?
- A series of unfortunate events. Just kidding. I honestly don't know- and maybe that's just what life is; life is lived simply to be figured out.
- Maybe on your death bed, as you slowly slip away, maybe there's one last fresh breath of air- and you just know?
- If we knew exactly why we were here, would life even be that great? Isn't not knowing and trying to figure it out half the fun?
- Someone once told me, "I don't know what comes after life, but I figure I might as well live it up while I've got the chance."- I think he's right.
- If this is all we have, why do so many hold back?
What is love?
- The best and worst thing in the entire world; creates the highest highs and the lowest lows.
- Love, I think, is when nothing and no one else matters.
- It happens when you least expect it, and doesn't when you want it most.
- It can't be forced.
- Love is 1 Corinthians 13:4–8
- Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.
- It's hard, and takes work, but in the end: the plus is worth the minus.
- Love challenges you to do the right thing.
- Love conquers pride.
What is friendship?
- A fight that lasts 5 minutes then is forgotten about.
- No matter what- you're there for someone else.
- The most reliable and solid foundation for any relationship.
- There is 100% honesty in real/true friendships
- Consideration is in full effect at all times (well most of the time)
- Endless laughs.
- When no one else encourages you- a real friend does.
What is pain?
- A physical or emotional strain.
- Ranges from broken bones to broken hearts.
- A tough fall on the court, or a tough fall for a person.
- Extensive disappointment.
- Pain fuels from loss; losing a big game, losing a limb, or losing a friend/family member.
- Wounds; flesh wounds or wounded pride.
- Feeling invisible or forgettable.
- Feeling unloved, or even worse- unlovable.
- Can last seconds, days, months, or even a lifetime.
- Perpetuating pain, a pain very few understand, can cause someone to take their own life.
What is religion?
- Something to believe in.
- To some, a life saver; for others, a reason to live.
- Reassurance, or a potential answer, to the meaning of life.
- A potential answer to, "How did we get here?" and, "What happens after we die?".
- Theories to the unexplainable; theories science cannot prove.
- Proof of miracles.
- The basis for "everything happens for a reason".
- Something people turn to in their time of need; to seek help.
- To encourage positive morals and lifestyles and exterminate selfish living.
Who am I?
- You are who you decide you want to be.
- At the end of the day who you are is up to you, not anyone else.
- What are you trying to achieve? And why?
- An individual and an influence.
- Strong and able.
- A difference in someone else's life.
- Presented with endless opportunities; its not whether or not you have the ability, it's whether or not you're willing to put in the work to get there.
What is yesterday, today, and tomorrow?
- It's the past, present, and future.
- Today, reflect on what you learned from yesterday, and apply it to tomorrow.
It's scary to think this is literally the only life we have. Seldom do we realize this is it, and every minute it draws closer to the end.
People always ask us, "If you knew you were dying, would you live differently?" - well, lets be honest, everyday we get closer to dying. I don't say this to be negative nor morbid. But it's true isn't it? Our days are number- regardless if it's 10 million , 10 thousand, or 10.
Basically, we should live like we're dying everyday.. because we are.
In Awake My Soul by Mumford and SonsWhere you invest your love, you invest your life." - How true. We should spend our lives being loved, not trying to convince someone to love us.
In Winter Winds also by Mumford and Sons, they say, "Let the memories be good for those who stay." I don't think this needs much explanation. If someone stays in your life, whether it's a friend, a boy/girl, or a family member- let the memories be good. If someone decides not to stay- what a shame.
What gives your life meaning? What and who can you not live without? When we look back on our lives thus far, it's not what we've done that we regret, its what we didn't do. Take your chances, look over the edge, jump in- because after all, it's all we've got.
Who are you? What is life to you? Is it finding love, fighting pain, faithful religion, or fruitful friendships?
Do you define life? Or does life define you?
5.01.2011
Entailing: It's No Straight Line
We, as humans, experience an extensive range of emotions.
Sometimes we get so angry we want to scream as loud as we can, throw something across the room, punch a wall.
Sometimes we get so sad we want to lay in bed all day long, don't want to talk to anyone, cry until there is nothing left to cry.
Sometimes we are so happy we can't stop smiling, you want to tell everyone how happy you are, nothing can bring us down.
Sometimes we are so confused we want to forget all about it and walk away or ask "why?" to anyone we think might have an answer.
Sometimes we are so bothered we want to turn break our phones, fade away from society, and live in the wilderness.
Sometimes we are so excited we can't sleep, time seems to move slowly, stomach knotting.
Sometimes we are so disappointed we can't look someone in the eyes, we can't look at someone the same, can't let it go.
Sometimes we are so scared we want to hide under the bed, run away, act like nothing is wrong.
Sometimes we are so in love we can't imagine our lives without that person, we want to show them off to the world, we want to hold tight and never let go.
No matter who you are, no matter how proud you make yourself out to be, you are able to experience emotion; you feel.
There are days where we feel like we could conquer the world, and then there are days where it feels like the world has conquered us.
There are days where you want to clean everything in sight, and days where you want to throw everything on the ground til' the floor can no longer be seen.
There are days where you want to reach out to everyone you know, ask them how they're doing, and offer a helping hand, and there are days where you don't want to socialize with anyone and just be by yourself.
There are days where you are motivated and get things done, and days where you do absolutely nothing.
No matter who you are, you've had good days, and bad days, and a line of 'ok' days.
There are good moments, good days, good weeks, good months, and good years.
Same goes for bad ones.
In Common Market's, Tobacco Road, a lyrics states, "They say life is what you make it, but really life is what makes you".
I believe in this statement.
People say, "Whatever happens, happens." Or, "Just let it be/play out." There is only so much of life that is in our control.
It's commonly and frequently said, "It's not what happens, it's how you react." There is a student upset about a B on a test, while a cancer patient is positive about their diagnosis. How's that for reaction control?
But
Life is tough. And incredibly circumstantial. I understand that.
There are moments we handle better than others, moments we wished we could have handled better, and ones we don't care too much about.
Human nature causes us to react instantaneously upon an sudden emotion.
Human logic causes us to think instantaneously before irrationally reacting upon a sudden emotion.
Human nature finds the difficulty to react solely with human logic.
Human logic leads to the discovery that it just takes practice.
Human nature frustrates over imperfection and stresses over mistakes.
Human logic knows acknowledges the nonexistence of perfection and executes mistakes as fuel to learn.
The beauty of emotion is that it's always changing. Why is it a good thing? It's kind of like, "You don't know what you've got til' it's gone".. How can you appreciate being happy if you've never been sad.. Understand?
Society places some sort of restrictions on who can feel what emotion, or rather show it.
A man has to be a man: No tears, nothing but strength and the answers to everything. He cannot be whipped, he cannot be sensitive. Why? They have feelings too.
A woman should not be angry. She is expected to be constantly nurturing and kind. She must do it all and do it without feeling stressed. Why? They have feelings too.
Each emotion is part of our natural human characteristics; although, don't let them become your only characteristics. Control your emotions, don't let them control you.
I've heard that being happy isn't stopping to think if you are. I don't think that could be any more true. Happiness, is. It just happens when you stop trying to make it happen. It's like growing your hair, when you try to grow it and take tons of vitamins and use special shampoos, it doesn't grow; the second you stop thinking about it, it grows.
So basically, negative emotions come, but we control when they go. We have to welcome the positive emotions, let them come in, and encourage them to stay. If we learn to prevent negative emotions from lingering, the longer the positive emotions remain.
Practice makes perfect? Eh, probably not. There will always be ups and downs, we cannot prevent the downs and we cannot perfect the ups.
But, that's ok.
Without the ups and downs, we'd be living a straight line of emotion, and how boring would that be?
Sometimes we get so angry we want to scream as loud as we can, throw something across the room, punch a wall.
Sometimes we get so sad we want to lay in bed all day long, don't want to talk to anyone, cry until there is nothing left to cry.
Sometimes we are so happy we can't stop smiling, you want to tell everyone how happy you are, nothing can bring us down.
Sometimes we are so confused we want to forget all about it and walk away or ask "why?" to anyone we think might have an answer.
Sometimes we are so bothered we want to turn break our phones, fade away from society, and live in the wilderness.
Sometimes we are so excited we can't sleep, time seems to move slowly, stomach knotting.
Sometimes we are so disappointed we can't look someone in the eyes, we can't look at someone the same, can't let it go.
Sometimes we are so scared we want to hide under the bed, run away, act like nothing is wrong.
Sometimes we are so in love we can't imagine our lives without that person, we want to show them off to the world, we want to hold tight and never let go.
No matter who you are, no matter how proud you make yourself out to be, you are able to experience emotion; you feel.
There are days where we feel like we could conquer the world, and then there are days where it feels like the world has conquered us.
There are days where you want to clean everything in sight, and days where you want to throw everything on the ground til' the floor can no longer be seen.
There are days where you want to reach out to everyone you know, ask them how they're doing, and offer a helping hand, and there are days where you don't want to socialize with anyone and just be by yourself.
There are days where you are motivated and get things done, and days where you do absolutely nothing.
No matter who you are, you've had good days, and bad days, and a line of 'ok' days.
There are good moments, good days, good weeks, good months, and good years.
Same goes for bad ones.
In Common Market's, Tobacco Road, a lyrics states, "They say life is what you make it, but really life is what makes you".
I believe in this statement.
People say, "Whatever happens, happens." Or, "Just let it be/play out." There is only so much of life that is in our control.
It's commonly and frequently said, "It's not what happens, it's how you react." There is a student upset about a B on a test, while a cancer patient is positive about their diagnosis. How's that for reaction control?
But
Life is tough. And incredibly circumstantial. I understand that.
There are moments we handle better than others, moments we wished we could have handled better, and ones we don't care too much about.
Human nature causes us to react instantaneously upon an sudden emotion.
Human logic causes us to think instantaneously before irrationally reacting upon a sudden emotion.
Human nature finds the difficulty to react solely with human logic.
Human logic leads to the discovery that it just takes practice.
Human nature frustrates over imperfection and stresses over mistakes.
Human logic knows acknowledges the nonexistence of perfection and executes mistakes as fuel to learn.
The beauty of emotion is that it's always changing. Why is it a good thing? It's kind of like, "You don't know what you've got til' it's gone".. How can you appreciate being happy if you've never been sad.. Understand?
Society places some sort of restrictions on who can feel what emotion, or rather show it.
A man has to be a man: No tears, nothing but strength and the answers to everything. He cannot be whipped, he cannot be sensitive. Why? They have feelings too.
A woman should not be angry. She is expected to be constantly nurturing and kind. She must do it all and do it without feeling stressed. Why? They have feelings too.
Each emotion is part of our natural human characteristics; although, don't let them become your only characteristics. Control your emotions, don't let them control you.
- Jealousy: A natural human emotion, but its a personal level emotion, meaning you control to what level you allow it to go to; you control how you handle it. No one else- just you.
- Anger: We become angry sometimes, but don't posses the anger characteristic. There is a difference between, being angry and being an angry person. Being angry is situational, being an angry person is a characteristic.
- Vengeance: We have the natural tendency to want to get even with someone who has hurt us; plot it in your head, but never carry it out. The best revenge is none at all. Don't give someone the satisfaction of evoking such hateful emotions out of you, you're better than that.
- Hate: Hate things, not people. Things are inanimate, no chance at emotion; people have stories, things you may , things you may not know; reasons they may act the way they do. Be fair.
- Brokenness: Getting hurt is inevitable. Allow it to run its course, then conquer it. Don't trap yourself in a rut.
- Betrayal: Another inevitable emotion. The harsh reality, not everyone acts in the best interest of everybody else. We are victims and convicts of betrayal. Be sensitive when someone thinks you've betrayed them and be open minded and understanding when you think someone has betrayed you.
- Bitterness: Being bitter only hurts you. The longer you hold on to something, the longer you hold a grudge, the more miserable you make life for yourself.
I've heard that being happy isn't stopping to think if you are. I don't think that could be any more true. Happiness, is. It just happens when you stop trying to make it happen. It's like growing your hair, when you try to grow it and take tons of vitamins and use special shampoos, it doesn't grow; the second you stop thinking about it, it grows.
So basically, negative emotions come, but we control when they go. We have to welcome the positive emotions, let them come in, and encourage them to stay. If we learn to prevent negative emotions from lingering, the longer the positive emotions remain.
Practice makes perfect? Eh, probably not. There will always be ups and downs, we cannot prevent the downs and we cannot perfect the ups.
But, that's ok.
Without the ups and downs, we'd be living a straight line of emotion, and how boring would that be?
4.16.2011
Entailing: Booty Calls, Babes, & Bitches
"Do your parents let you out of the house looking like that?" People say it sarcastically, but really.. for some girls - Do they really?!
Looks
The Bottoms
Jeans:
- Buying a pair of jeans that is 2-3 sizes too small for you doesn't make you look skinnier, it just looks like you're wearing a pair of pants that are too small for you.
- Sagging your pants is for boys. Enough said.
- Sure, everyone flashes a little butt crack every now and then, but when half your ass is hanging out, you need a belt.
- When you have more holes than fabric, it's time for a new pair.
Shorts:
-No matter if you're skinny or.. not skinny, no one wants to see a girl try to fit into a pair of shorts that are too small.
- No one wants to see your butt hanging out the back
- You know your size, stick in that range.
Skirts:
- Please, for the love of God, wear something under it other than just a thong. It's doesn't make you sexy, it just makes you easy.
- Don't wear it so high when you bend over or if there's a slight breeze, the whole world suddenly knows your underwear color.
- A pencil skirt that's too small for you is like looking at a 300 lb. man try to fit in a kiddie sized sleeping bag.
The Tops
- Girls wear tight shirts, but if you can see the entire outline of your bra - it's too tight.
- Boobs are tough to hide, but come on, no nip slips, you can at least manage that.
- Don't wear a white shirt and black bra; can you say trashy?
- See through shirts are meant to be worn with something underneath, ok?
- If your low-cut shirt shows more than it should, be classy enough to put at least a sports bra on underneath.
- I don't know when shirts with holes all down the back became trendy, but they're ugly.
The Bras & Undies
Bras:
- First off, actually wear a bra. RT through your t-shirt isn't scandalous, it's just disgusting.
- Weather you have small boobs, or giant boobs, buy a bra that fits you. Nothing is worse than when a guy thinks you have big ones, takes off the bra and realizes it was fake!
- Don't wear something to show off your hot pink bra, if you're wearing a white t-shirt, wear a neutral bra. No one cares what color you're wearing; you just look like white trash if your bra stands out over the rest of your outfit.
Undies:
- If you don't wear underwear.. that's your choice, but don't walk around telling people. geeeez.
- If you wear leggings, for Pete's sake, wear a thong. Panty lines are yucky.
- If you wear thongs, make sure they aren't hanging out. you're a skankity skank skank if you know it is and don't do anything about it!
- If your pants are even the slightest bit transparent, don't wear patterned or bright undies - so noticeable.
The Hair
- Do not rat your hair to the point it literally looks like a bird could house its family in there.
- Making a poof bump, or whatever, is weird. Don't make it look like you've got a bump it in there. If it doesn't look natural, it shouldn't be there.
- Streaking your hair looks like a skunk gave you fashion advice..
- There is nothing worse than bad extensions.
- Whats the deal with dying one strand of hair a bizarre color?
The Make-up
- If your face is a different color than the rest of your body, you're wearing too much make up.
- If you look like a baby doll (unnaturally rosy cheeks, red lips, etc.), you're wearing too much make up.
- If the one time you don't wear make up, at least one person doesn't recognize you, you wear too much make up.
- Eye liner belongs on the the eyes, not below your eye and half way passed it into swirls and streaks.
- Eye LINEr... get it, a line? No more; don't thicken it on.
- There's a difference between mascaraed eye lashes, and clumped eye lashes. Know when to stop!
- Eye brows aren't mean to be penciled on, that's all.
The Tattoos
- The tramp stamp literally means exactly what it says.
- A bad tattoo is like a car accident: noticeable and everyone slows down to look at it
Personality
The Language:
Swearing:
- Everybody can swear, just because you do, doesn't make you any cooler.
- Walking around calling everybody "bitches" isn't a term of endearment
- Swear around your girl friends, at least clean it up a bit around other people - It's trashy when a girl swears like a sailor, or a boy.
Like, Oh My God!:
- If you want people to think you're intelligent, speak that way.
- Saying "like" every other word and sounding like a valley girl will only get the nick name, dumb blond, no matter what color your hair is.
- Drawing out your vowels makes you sound stupid, "Waaaaaaait, whaaaaaaat? Oooooh my.."
- Don't try to use words you don't understand, there will more than likely be someone who actually knows what the word means, and you'll look like an idiot.
- Saying words like, "Betch" and "Hells ya" is nothing but annoying.
Attitude
- If you roll your eyes when people are talking, people will think you're a bitch.
- Make fun of other people for no reason, people will think you're a bitch.
- If you have hissy fits over nothing and make a scene, people will think you're a bitch.
- If you strut around and think you're cooler than everyone else, people will think you're a bitch.
- If you tell people off on a daily basis, you're probably a bitch.
Get Some
- There is a fine line between being flirty and nice, and being a skank about it.
- Kissing random boys was cute when you were in pre-school, it's slutty now.
- If you get with every guy and his brother, expect to hear jokes about yourself being the town bicycle and everyone gets a ride; reap the consequences of your actions.
- Talking about how you got with two guys the other night and didn't have protected sex makes you sound like a good time.. as long as your tongue does the talking.
Party Time
- If you've had one shot, you're not drunk. So stop acting like it.
- Don't stumble around telling every guy how drunk you are, it's pathetic.
- Guys probably get with you because you're slammed, not because you're a nice girl.
- No one wants you to sway over to the ipod and play "California Gurls" or Justin Beiber at the party, your music choice blows.
- Don't scream "Woooooooh!" all the time and hold up the beer you've been working on all night.
- A handful of other girls there will probably hate you - not because they're jealous, but because you're making a fool of yourself.
- The second you fall, laugh, and reach for your best friend and pull her down too: everyone thinks you're retarded.
- Smoking cigarettes never has been, and never will be, attractive.
The Boyfriend
- Not every girl is trying to steal your boyfriend, chill out.
- If you're hanging out with other guys, don't constantly bring up your boyfriend in every subject.
- Don't make every post about him on facebook or twitter, good or bad, its corny/immature.
- If you have a boyfriend, don't lose friends over it
The Gossiper
- If others hear you talk shit about someone else, what makes you think they won't talk about you behind your back?
- If you're rude, conceited, slutty, etc. don't flatter yourself and say people talk about you because they're jealous, because they aren't. They sincerely think you're rude, conceited, slutty, etc.
Basically, girls - you are what you make yourself out to be. The word on the street isn't always true, and you have the right to wear what you want to wear and act how you want to act, but in the end, hands down, the classy girl wins.
Looks
The Bottoms
Jeans:
- Buying a pair of jeans that is 2-3 sizes too small for you doesn't make you look skinnier, it just looks like you're wearing a pair of pants that are too small for you.
- Sagging your pants is for boys. Enough said.
- Sure, everyone flashes a little butt crack every now and then, but when half your ass is hanging out, you need a belt.
- When you have more holes than fabric, it's time for a new pair.
Shorts:
-No matter if you're skinny or.. not skinny, no one wants to see a girl try to fit into a pair of shorts that are too small.
- No one wants to see your butt hanging out the back
- You know your size, stick in that range.
Skirts:
- Please, for the love of God, wear something under it other than just a thong. It's doesn't make you sexy, it just makes you easy.
- Don't wear it so high when you bend over or if there's a slight breeze, the whole world suddenly knows your underwear color.
- A pencil skirt that's too small for you is like looking at a 300 lb. man try to fit in a kiddie sized sleeping bag.
The Tops
- Girls wear tight shirts, but if you can see the entire outline of your bra - it's too tight.
- Boobs are tough to hide, but come on, no nip slips, you can at least manage that.
- Don't wear a white shirt and black bra; can you say trashy?
- See through shirts are meant to be worn with something underneath, ok?
- If your low-cut shirt shows more than it should, be classy enough to put at least a sports bra on underneath.
- I don't know when shirts with holes all down the back became trendy, but they're ugly.
The Bras & Undies
Bras:
- First off, actually wear a bra. RT through your t-shirt isn't scandalous, it's just disgusting.
- Weather you have small boobs, or giant boobs, buy a bra that fits you. Nothing is worse than when a guy thinks you have big ones, takes off the bra and realizes it was fake!
- Don't wear something to show off your hot pink bra, if you're wearing a white t-shirt, wear a neutral bra. No one cares what color you're wearing; you just look like white trash if your bra stands out over the rest of your outfit.
Undies:
- If you don't wear underwear.. that's your choice, but don't walk around telling people. geeeez.
- If you wear leggings, for Pete's sake, wear a thong. Panty lines are yucky.
- If you wear thongs, make sure they aren't hanging out. you're a skankity skank skank if you know it is and don't do anything about it!
- If your pants are even the slightest bit transparent, don't wear patterned or bright undies - so noticeable.
The Hair
- Do not rat your hair to the point it literally looks like a bird could house its family in there.
- Making a poof bump, or whatever, is weird. Don't make it look like you've got a bump it in there. If it doesn't look natural, it shouldn't be there.
- Streaking your hair looks like a skunk gave you fashion advice..
- There is nothing worse than bad extensions.
- Whats the deal with dying one strand of hair a bizarre color?
The Make-up
- If your face is a different color than the rest of your body, you're wearing too much make up.
- If you look like a baby doll (unnaturally rosy cheeks, red lips, etc.), you're wearing too much make up.
- If the one time you don't wear make up, at least one person doesn't recognize you, you wear too much make up.
- Eye liner belongs on the the eyes, not below your eye and half way passed it into swirls and streaks.
- Eye LINEr... get it, a line? No more; don't thicken it on.
- There's a difference between mascaraed eye lashes, and clumped eye lashes. Know when to stop!
- Eye brows aren't mean to be penciled on, that's all.
The Tattoos
- The tramp stamp literally means exactly what it says.
- A bad tattoo is like a car accident: noticeable and everyone slows down to look at it
Personality
The Language:
Swearing:
- Everybody can swear, just because you do, doesn't make you any cooler.
- Walking around calling everybody "bitches" isn't a term of endearment
- Swear around your girl friends, at least clean it up a bit around other people - It's trashy when a girl swears like a sailor, or a boy.
Like, Oh My God!:
- If you want people to think you're intelligent, speak that way.
- Saying "like" every other word and sounding like a valley girl will only get the nick name, dumb blond, no matter what color your hair is.
- Drawing out your vowels makes you sound stupid, "Waaaaaaait, whaaaaaaat? Oooooh my.."
- Don't try to use words you don't understand, there will more than likely be someone who actually knows what the word means, and you'll look like an idiot.
- Saying words like, "Betch" and "Hells ya" is nothing but annoying.
Attitude
- If you roll your eyes when people are talking, people will think you're a bitch.
- Make fun of other people for no reason, people will think you're a bitch.
- If you have hissy fits over nothing and make a scene, people will think you're a bitch.
- If you strut around and think you're cooler than everyone else, people will think you're a bitch.
- If you tell people off on a daily basis, you're probably a bitch.
Get Some
- There is a fine line between being flirty and nice, and being a skank about it.
- Kissing random boys was cute when you were in pre-school, it's slutty now.
- If you get with every guy and his brother, expect to hear jokes about yourself being the town bicycle and everyone gets a ride; reap the consequences of your actions.
- Talking about how you got with two guys the other night and didn't have protected sex makes you sound like a good time.. as long as your tongue does the talking.
Party Time
- If you've had one shot, you're not drunk. So stop acting like it.
- Don't stumble around telling every guy how drunk you are, it's pathetic.
- Guys probably get with you because you're slammed, not because you're a nice girl.
- No one wants you to sway over to the ipod and play "California Gurls" or Justin Beiber at the party, your music choice blows.
- Don't scream "Woooooooh!" all the time and hold up the beer you've been working on all night.
- A handful of other girls there will probably hate you - not because they're jealous, but because you're making a fool of yourself.
- The second you fall, laugh, and reach for your best friend and pull her down too: everyone thinks you're retarded.
- Smoking cigarettes never has been, and never will be, attractive.
The Boyfriend
- Not every girl is trying to steal your boyfriend, chill out.
- If you're hanging out with other guys, don't constantly bring up your boyfriend in every subject.
- Don't make every post about him on facebook or twitter, good or bad, its corny/immature.
- If you have a boyfriend, don't lose friends over it
The Gossiper
- If others hear you talk shit about someone else, what makes you think they won't talk about you behind your back?
- If you're rude, conceited, slutty, etc. don't flatter yourself and say people talk about you because they're jealous, because they aren't. They sincerely think you're rude, conceited, slutty, etc.
Basically, girls - you are what you make yourself out to be. The word on the street isn't always true, and you have the right to wear what you want to wear and act how you want to act, but in the end, hands down, the classy girl wins.
4.09.2011
Entailing: Puppets
She was a puppet
and he was her master.
Standing above her
he was the one
who made her dance.
Cold-heartidly he laughed
at the power
he had over her.
Pulling each string
she did what he said.
He'd losen his grip
and make her think
she was free.
When she tried to leave
he'd tighten those strings
and jerk her around.
Weakened from tossing
her heart was breaking,
it was her life he was taking.
She was sick of his games
and sick of the pain.
Sitting cold on the stage
she looked up at him;
bitter heart and hard eyes.
She knew she could do it
and knew it could be done.
She knew he wouldn't mind
for all she was
was another piece in his
selfish game.
He'd find another
and forget about her.
It was time,
so with a deep breath
she took her teeth to the line.
Taking a stand,
one by one
she let herself go.
he looked at her
dropping it all on the floor.
He hung his head
and hung it in shame.
He didn't think
she'd finally see.
See him for what he was,
for what he wasn't.
Watching her go
his heart was breaking
knowing he was the reason
she cut herself lose
leaving him there
above the stage,
no puppet
no game.
and he was her master.
Standing above her
he was the one
who made her dance.
Cold-heartidly he laughed
at the power
he had over her.
Pulling each string
she did what he said.
He'd losen his grip
and make her think
she was free.
When she tried to leave
he'd tighten those strings
and jerk her around.
Weakened from tossing
her heart was breaking,
it was her life he was taking.
She was sick of his games
and sick of the pain.
Sitting cold on the stage
she looked up at him;
bitter heart and hard eyes.
She knew she could do it
and knew it could be done.
She knew he wouldn't mind
for all she was
was another piece in his
selfish game.
He'd find another
and forget about her.
It was time,
so with a deep breath
she took her teeth to the line.
Taking a stand,
one by one
she let herself go.
he looked at her
dropping it all on the floor.
He hung his head
and hung it in shame.
He didn't think
she'd finally see.
See him for what he was,
for what he wasn't.
Watching her go
his heart was breaking
knowing he was the reason
she cut herself lose
leaving him there
above the stage,
no puppet
no game.
3.31.2011
Entailing: Ya, Bro!
There are three kinds of people:
- People who hate bros
- People who love bros
- Bros
How do you know which group you fall into? Well that's simple, follow this tutorial. Once you figure out your standing you'll be brolieved and won't have to stress anymore.
How to recognize a bro by sight:
1. You may notice that athletes wear jersey's during games, but if you're trying to spot a bro just look for the a guy wearing a jersey as casual wear.
2. If he's not in his jersey, he'll probably be in a semi-tight t-shirt. Don't make the mistake in thinking he bought it a size too small, his muscles probably just grew overnight and he didn't have time to buy a new one.
3. Can only see their feet? thats ok, they're probably wearing nike sport socks that go approximately mid shin. But dont worry, they'll match their high top nikes too, oh and his nike athletic shorts.
4. How to recognize him if he's not in his sporty nike shorts? Just look for his designer jeans, mommy probably picked them out and paid for them too.
5. If you're in gym, the bro is probably the one in a cut of t-shirt that's cut down to his hips on the sides. It's for ventilation?
6. A bro is never dirty (except at the gym) so look out for his clean cut hair, if its a bit longer, it's styled - even if it's "messy" - it's styled.
How to recognize a bro by what he says:
1. Bros usually speak to one person with intentions for everyone else to hear, so if you hear a guy talk about how wasted they were last weekend and he hooked up with three girls, it's probably a bro.
2. A bro's parents rarely know his behavior outside of the home, so if you hear a guy say, "Dude. I went home so high the other night and had to talk to my parents, but it was chill" - it's more than likely a bro.
3. Speaking of "dude" and "chill".. those are two primary words in a bro's vocabulary - and of course, "bro"
4. Bros usually like to make up their own words for things though, like changing "hooking up" to something like.. "shagged" and other (probably offensive) names for girls that are either ugly, hot, or their favorite - slutty.
5. If you ever hear the words "Gold's Gym" come out of a guy's mouth, he's a bro. Not every guy at Gold's is a bro, but every bro goes to Gold's - and they go together and cheer each other on while lifting weights.
6. If a bro isn't talking about partying, weed, or working out, he's probably talking about "chicks", that girl with the nice ass, or that slut he got with the other night - but can't remember her name.
7. Bro's usually hug a girl and when she walks away he tells his fellow bros about how annoying she is and she's "basically stalking" him
How to spot a bro by what he's doing
1. Bros attend every dance party (usually in jerseys)
2. Bros grind and thrust
3. Bros jerk, even when they're not at dance parties
4. He's probably friends with every girl at school, so if you see them same guy hugging a different girl everyday, he's probably a bro
5. A bro is never committed, he attracts "Bro Hoes" - groupie girls for the bro population
6. He's the one that walks up to you at a party, puts his arm around you and says, "Dude, i'm so f*cked up, are you f*cked up?"
Bro's have tendencies to either stand out, or - their defense mechanism, blend it with the modern day population of average people.
Bro-watching has become a favorable activity now-a-days, can you spot them?
- People who hate bros
- People who love bros
- Bros
How do you know which group you fall into? Well that's simple, follow this tutorial. Once you figure out your standing you'll be brolieved and won't have to stress anymore.
How to recognize a bro by sight:
1. You may notice that athletes wear jersey's during games, but if you're trying to spot a bro just look for the a guy wearing a jersey as casual wear.
2. If he's not in his jersey, he'll probably be in a semi-tight t-shirt. Don't make the mistake in thinking he bought it a size too small, his muscles probably just grew overnight and he didn't have time to buy a new one.
3. Can only see their feet? thats ok, they're probably wearing nike sport socks that go approximately mid shin. But dont worry, they'll match their high top nikes too, oh and his nike athletic shorts.
4. How to recognize him if he's not in his sporty nike shorts? Just look for his designer jeans, mommy probably picked them out and paid for them too.
5. If you're in gym, the bro is probably the one in a cut of t-shirt that's cut down to his hips on the sides. It's for ventilation?
6. A bro is never dirty (except at the gym) so look out for his clean cut hair, if its a bit longer, it's styled - even if it's "messy" - it's styled.
How to recognize a bro by what he says:
1. Bros usually speak to one person with intentions for everyone else to hear, so if you hear a guy talk about how wasted they were last weekend and he hooked up with three girls, it's probably a bro.
2. A bro's parents rarely know his behavior outside of the home, so if you hear a guy say, "Dude. I went home so high the other night and had to talk to my parents, but it was chill" - it's more than likely a bro.
3. Speaking of "dude" and "chill".. those are two primary words in a bro's vocabulary - and of course, "bro"
4. Bros usually like to make up their own words for things though, like changing "hooking up" to something like.. "shagged" and other (probably offensive) names for girls that are either ugly, hot, or their favorite - slutty.
5. If you ever hear the words "Gold's Gym" come out of a guy's mouth, he's a bro. Not every guy at Gold's is a bro, but every bro goes to Gold's - and they go together and cheer each other on while lifting weights.
6. If a bro isn't talking about partying, weed, or working out, he's probably talking about "chicks", that girl with the nice ass, or that slut he got with the other night - but can't remember her name.
7. Bro's usually hug a girl and when she walks away he tells his fellow bros about how annoying she is and she's "basically stalking" him
How to spot a bro by what he's doing
1. Bros attend every dance party (usually in jerseys)
2. Bros grind and thrust
3. Bros jerk, even when they're not at dance parties
4. He's probably friends with every girl at school, so if you see them same guy hugging a different girl everyday, he's probably a bro
5. A bro is never committed, he attracts "Bro Hoes" - groupie girls for the bro population
6. He's the one that walks up to you at a party, puts his arm around you and says, "Dude, i'm so f*cked up, are you f*cked up?"
Bro's have tendencies to either stand out, or - their defense mechanism, blend it with the modern day population of average people.
Bro-watching has become a favorable activity now-a-days, can you spot them?
3.28.2011
Entailing: Things That Drive Us Crazy
Ever catch yourself in a moment where you literally feel like you might explode??
Kind of like an, "OHHHHH MY GOD" moment?
Or simply just beyond annoyed?
There are cases when it takes just about everything inside of us not to freak out and do exactly what we want to do..
Scenario: Whenever there is a baby crying and screamning in the grocery store
What I want to do: Walk up to the mom that isn't paying attention.. pick up her baby, put it in her hands, nod and walk away.
Scenario: About 7 people bump into me one after another
What I want to do: Go behind the last person who ran into me and give them a nice shove in the back.
Scenario: Someone chomping on their food like it was rocks
What I want to do: Smile at them, then take the rest of their food and throw it on the ground and stomp on it.
Scenario: A guy waddling down the street with his pants down to his knees
What I want to do: Pull them up reeeeeeeal high and tie them up.
Scenario: When someone says "Oh I heard something about you the other day, but I can't tell you"
What I want to do: Choke them.
Scenario: Teacher/Professor gives homework over the weekend/break
What I want to do: paper cut them with the work sheet and hit them in the head with the text book.
Scenario: When someone pulls out in front of me on the road and drives ungodly slow
What I want to do: Bumper cars anyone?
Scenario: When someone whispers "Shhhhhh!!" at me in class
What I want to do: Tell them to shut the #(*@ up because I'm almost positive they don't really care about the class.
Scenario: When you order something without tomatoes, or onions, or something like that.. and they are on your food
What I want to do: Nicely give them back.
Scenario: When a girl is wearing too much make up
What I want to do: Let her know it's not halloween and to save her mask for October
Scenario: When a waiter or waitress is rude to you for no reason
What I want to do: Remind them I'm the one tipping
Scenario: When someone is snoring and you can't fall asleep
What I want to do: Hit them as hard as I possibly can with a pillow and then pretend I'm still fast asleep when they wake up
Scenario: When someone you know keeps bragging about stupid things
What I want to do: Tell them no one cares.. at all.
Scenario: When someone says "like" or "um" every other word
What I want to do: Triple dog dare them not to say it anymore
Scenario: When someone is smoking a cigarette and blows smoke right in my walking path
What I want to do: Either take it out of their hands, take a wiff, and blow it back in their face OR overexaggeratingly cough in front of them for 3 minutes.
Scenario: When a coach tells you to run harder
What I want to do: Tell them to get their fat ass our there and do it
Scenario: When a couple is all over each other in public
What I want to do: Say, "Pardon me" and walk inbetween them.
There are just so many things that annoy us
- when the clothes we want to wear end up being in the washing machine
- when we get half way to where we need to be and realize we forgot something
- get into bed and then have to get up for something, and then it happens again
- having something to say, then forgetting, but then you remember... and forget again.
- grabbing the desk to scoot in your chair and you make contact with a nice piece of gum
- when birds poop on you're freshly washed car, or it rains
- plugging in your phone/ipod/laptop but then realize 30 minutes later it wasn't actually plugged into the wall so it didn't charge at all
- spending a lot of time on an assignment but then you're teacher doesn't make you turn it in
- staying up all night to work on a project you think is due the next day but it doesn't even end up being due
- doing the wrong assignment in your math book
- someone is taking their sweet time in the bathroom when you really have to go
- get in the shower and there is no hot water left
- you wake up three minutes before you alarm goes off
- see something in your kitchen, you get really excited to eat it, and the box ends up being empty
The list goes on and on and on.
We often say, "It's just one of those days" where it seems like just about any little thing could go wrong, has.
Not much can be said or done about, we just have to accept that these kind of days happen, and they suck. But no matter what, they pass.
Try to laugh them off, because when you hear about these sort of things happening to other people, lets be honest - we laugh.
Kind of like an, "OHHHHH MY GOD" moment?
Or simply just beyond annoyed?
There are cases when it takes just about everything inside of us not to freak out and do exactly what we want to do..
Scenario: Whenever there is a baby crying and screamning in the grocery store
What I want to do: Walk up to the mom that isn't paying attention.. pick up her baby, put it in her hands, nod and walk away.
Scenario: About 7 people bump into me one after another
What I want to do: Go behind the last person who ran into me and give them a nice shove in the back.
Scenario: Someone chomping on their food like it was rocks
What I want to do: Smile at them, then take the rest of their food and throw it on the ground and stomp on it.
Scenario: A guy waddling down the street with his pants down to his knees
What I want to do: Pull them up reeeeeeeal high and tie them up.
Scenario: When someone says "Oh I heard something about you the other day, but I can't tell you"
What I want to do: Choke them.
Scenario: Teacher/Professor gives homework over the weekend/break
What I want to do: paper cut them with the work sheet and hit them in the head with the text book.
Scenario: When someone pulls out in front of me on the road and drives ungodly slow
What I want to do: Bumper cars anyone?
Scenario: When someone whispers "Shhhhhh!!" at me in class
What I want to do: Tell them to shut the #(*@ up because I'm almost positive they don't really care about the class.
Scenario: When you order something without tomatoes, or onions, or something like that.. and they are on your food
What I want to do: Nicely give them back.
Scenario: When a girl is wearing too much make up
What I want to do: Let her know it's not halloween and to save her mask for October
Scenario: When a waiter or waitress is rude to you for no reason
What I want to do: Remind them I'm the one tipping
Scenario: When someone is snoring and you can't fall asleep
What I want to do: Hit them as hard as I possibly can with a pillow and then pretend I'm still fast asleep when they wake up
Scenario: When someone you know keeps bragging about stupid things
What I want to do: Tell them no one cares.. at all.
Scenario: When someone says "like" or "um" every other word
What I want to do: Triple dog dare them not to say it anymore
Scenario: When someone is smoking a cigarette and blows smoke right in my walking path
What I want to do: Either take it out of their hands, take a wiff, and blow it back in their face OR overexaggeratingly cough in front of them for 3 minutes.
Scenario: When a coach tells you to run harder
What I want to do: Tell them to get their fat ass our there and do it
Scenario: When a couple is all over each other in public
What I want to do: Say, "Pardon me" and walk inbetween them.
There are just so many things that annoy us
- when the clothes we want to wear end up being in the washing machine
- when we get half way to where we need to be and realize we forgot something
- get into bed and then have to get up for something, and then it happens again
- having something to say, then forgetting, but then you remember... and forget again.
- grabbing the desk to scoot in your chair and you make contact with a nice piece of gum
- when birds poop on you're freshly washed car, or it rains
- plugging in your phone/ipod/laptop but then realize 30 minutes later it wasn't actually plugged into the wall so it didn't charge at all
- spending a lot of time on an assignment but then you're teacher doesn't make you turn it in
- staying up all night to work on a project you think is due the next day but it doesn't even end up being due
- doing the wrong assignment in your math book
- someone is taking their sweet time in the bathroom when you really have to go
- get in the shower and there is no hot water left
- you wake up three minutes before you alarm goes off
- see something in your kitchen, you get really excited to eat it, and the box ends up being empty
The list goes on and on and on.
We often say, "It's just one of those days" where it seems like just about any little thing could go wrong, has.
Not much can be said or done about, we just have to accept that these kind of days happen, and they suck. But no matter what, they pass.
Try to laugh them off, because when you hear about these sort of things happening to other people, lets be honest - we laugh.
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